Book	Reading Part @July 20, 2017
Stephen R. Covey	Habit 5：Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood, P247-272

Summary:

习惯五的“知彼解己”（Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood）是人际交往关系中至关重要的一个环节。它需要我们了解并掌握“移情聆听”的技巧。正如文中所说的，从小到大我们花了很多时间和精力来学习如何说读写，却往往都忽略了聆听的重要性。尤其是现在这个所谓“快餐碎片化”的时代，我们甚至连完整听完对方整句话的耐心都没有，就急不可待的打断或者匆忙回应对方了。这样的交流与沟通方式看似“短时有效”，实际上于对方是不尊重，于自己是无收获无所增长。须时刻警醒共勉之。

* Words and Expressions: *

What you say is good and fine, but it doesn’t quite pertain to me.

pertain, [no object] formal: to relate to someone or something : to have a connection to a person or thing; 适合，属于，关于;
pertain to 从属于；关于；适合;
e.g. This video didn't pertain to the topic they were talking about.

We often do this when we’re listening to the constant chatter of a preschool child.

constant, adj, happening all the time or very often over a period of time; constant chatter 喋喋不休
e.g. We are all tired of her constant chatter of her so-called misery past.

You can work your fingers to the bone to make a deposit, only to have it turn into a withdrawal when a person regards your efforts as manipulative, self-serving, intimidating, or condescending because you don’t understand what really matters to him.

work your fingers to the bone, (also work your socks off informal) to work very hard. 拼命工作
e.g. In order to meet the annual objective, he has been working his fingers to the bone for several weeks.