How to ask for what you want — and get it every time

Day1

词组：

1.run into偶然遇到/遇上

[a].Wang agreed to sell IBM Systems last year after it ran into financial problems.

[b]He ran into Krettner in the corridor a few minutes later.

[c]The driver failed to negotiate a bend顺利打个弯 and ran into a tree.

2.went on at lengthabout 

长篇大段讲述。。。

3.clip片段

4.feel restive and inclined to hit the delete button

restive：不耐烦的; 感到厌烦的; 不满的

ep：If you are restive, you are impatient, bored, or dissatisfied

The audience grew restive.

5.acquaintance[ə'kwentəns]

【a】An acquaintance is someone who you have met and know slightly, but not well. 相识之人

He exchanged a few words with the proprietor, an old acquaintance of his.

【b】If you have an acquaintance with someone, you have met them and you know them. 结识

【c】When you make someone's acquaintance, you meet them for the first time and get to know them a little. 与某人初次相识

6.cut to the chase开门见山

7.flattery/butter people up

1）flattery['flætəri] excessive or insincere praise阿谀奉承的

【ep】He is ambitious and susceptible to对...敏感 flattery.

2）butter...up=pay a compliment to 

flatter讨好 with the intention of getting something

【ep】

The only truly effective way of saying please is tobutter people up.

Some people believe to butter up your boss is the only way to get ahead.

8.singularly['sɪŋɡjəlɚli] 异常地ungratifying['ɡrætɪfaɪɪŋ]不满意

9.function盛大集会

10.manipulative

skillful in influencing or controlling others to your own advantage

11.a fiend[fiːnd] 魔鬼/能手/成癖者with

12.comply本文中偏向于照做

act in accordance with someone's rules, commands, or wishes

句子：

1.There is no danger of ever laying it on too thick. There is no level at which flattery stops working.

2.In addition to being flattering, the perfect please has to make you feel not only wanted, but also needed.

3.You thank specifically for the thing. You say why you liked it — and you must thank promptly. The only difference for me now is that I no longer have to rattle on for a page and a half. Indeed, the shorter the better.

rattle on for: talk incessantly and tiresomely

Day4

W1-Wed神句神词组

神句组：

1.On various occasions she has persuaded me to do things for her, just as she has enlisted thousands of others.

各种场合她都曾要求我为她做事，正向他要求别人一样。

2.Why would I give up a Saturday on the basis of watching a clip of a similar conference a year earlier?

我就看了这样一个千篇一律的大会视频，为什么要因此牺牲一个周六呢？

3.There is no danger of everlaying it on too thick. There is no level at which flattery stops working, according to a study by Jennifer Chatman of the University of California,Berkeley.

永远都不要担心用力过猛。据伯克利加利福尼亚大学的Jennifer Chatman所做的研究，奉承的话是永远不会失效的。

4.In addition to being flattering, the perfect please has to make you feelnot only wanted, but also needed. I read the email and said yes at once. I knew how manipulative it was, but Icould not help myself.

除了阿谀奉承之外，最完美的请求要让对方感受到自己不仅仅被需要，而且必不可少。我一读那封邮件就答应了，我知道这是巧妙安排过的，但我就是无法控制自己。

5.And rather than ask if I had enjoyed it,it would have been better to attest how much they had enjoyed having me.

与其问我是否享受这次活动，我更想了解主办方和观众对我是否满意。

6.If only you would join our panel on xxx. We have a lot of clever but worthy people talking, and we need your genius to liven it up. Please say yes.

如果你能够参加我的座谈会就太好了。我们有很多聪明且值得尊敬的人一起交谈，我们非常需要你的智慧来引领我们。拜托一定要答应我的请求。

7.Thank you for bringing the evening to lifeand foryour scorching wit and sense. You are our own Tina Fey.

感谢您让这个夜晚精彩纷呈，感谢您炽热充沛的智慧和情感。你就是我们的Tina Fey.

神词组：

1.go on at length？

2.cut to the chase

开门见山

3.butter people up

奉承某人

4.singularly ungratifying

完全不让人满意的

5.get sb to do sth/make sb do sth

要求…做…

6.run into sb

偶遇…

7.incline to do sth

倾向于做…

8.too vague to be convincing

太笼统以致难以说服他人

9.be done with doing sth

做完…

10.rattle on

东拼西凑…

11.fail to do its job

无法完成某项工作