The 2 Mental Shifts Highly Successful People Make
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“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”— Max Planck, German quantum/‘kwɑntəm/theorist and Nobel Prize winner
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There are two primary mental shifts that occur in the lives of all highly successful people. Many make the first, but very few make the second. Both of these shifts require a great deal of mental stretching from conventional/kən'vɛnʃənl/and societal/sə'saɪətl/ways of thinking. In many ways, these shifts require you to unlearn the negative and sabotaging/ˌsæbə'tɑʒ/programming from your youth/jʊθ/, public education, and even adulthood.
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The foundation of the first shift is the sublime/sə'blaɪm/power of choice and individual responsibility. Once you make this shift, you are empowered to pull yourself from poverty/'pɑvɚti/of time, finances, and relationships. In other words, the first shift allows you to create a happy and prosperous/'prɑspərəs/life, where, for the most part, you control how and on what you invest your time.
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Unfortunately, the results of the first shift can be overly-satisfying on one hand or paralyzing/'pærə,laɪz/on the other. Thus, few people ascend to the second shift. Hence, Greg McKeown, bestselling author ofEssentialismexplains, “Success can become a catalyst/'kætəlɪst/for failure.”
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For example, when a musician starts out, they write lots of music for the love of it. Their dreams are often huge. If they end up becoming successful, in almost every case, they’ll begin producing less and less music overtime. This happens for one of two reasons:
Their focus shifts from why they’re writing music towhattheir music has brought them. Consequently, they are either satisfied with their results and no longer have the drive to write more. Or, they desire to make more music but the fire (their “why”) is gone, and thus, they can’t create the same depth and quality they once did.
They become perfectionist and paralyzed. They fear their best work is behind them. Elizabeth Gilbert describes her paralysis in her beautiful TED talk. After the mega-success ofEat, Pray, Love,Gilbert couldn’t get herself to write. She knew she wouldn’t be able to replicate the results ofEat, Pray, Love.This paralysis is where many, many people get stuck.
However, Gilbert is different from most, because, as she explains in her TED talk, she continued forward in spite of her success. In order to do so, she forced herself to fail a few times — just to “get it out of her system.” Once she did this, her emotional blocks were gone and she was able to continue her creative career.
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The foundation of the second shift is transcending/træn’sɛnd/your own independence, wherein your thinking stretches far beyond yourself. Thus, the second shift begins with 10x thinking and subsequently requires you build a team/network that brings your ideas into physical form.
In this article, I explain the process of experiencing the first and second shift.
Let’s begin:
Shift 1: The Power of Choice
The following are the core components of your mental model after you’ve experienced the first shift:
You are responsible
“If it is to be, it is up to me.” — William H. Johnsen, famed African-American painter
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In order to make the first shift, you must go from an external locus of control to an internal locus of control. This is the scientific way of saying: you stop playing the victim to external circumstances and take responsibility for your life.
You are responsible for how you respond to life. No longer do you impulsively react. No longer do you blame others for any lack on your part.
You are 100% responsible for your marriage, for example. None of this 50/50 business. It’s all on you. If it fails, it was your fault. You made choices and now there are consequences. Of course others may be involved, but you can’t blame them for your choices.
In the book,Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win, authors Jocko Willink and Leif Babin explain this level of responsibility as fundamental to true leadership. Hence, there are no bad teams, only bad leaders.Any negative outcomes of a team operation fall square on the leader. Any positive outcomes, conversely, are awarded primarily to the team.
Self-leadership, similarly, involves the same level of responsibility. If something doesn’t work out, who (or what) do you blame? If anything but yourself, you’ll remain hostage to things outside your control.
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Every choice has a cost and consequence
Free-will doesn’t exist.
You aren’t “free” to act however you want, unless you’re willing to accept the consequences of those actions. As Stephen R. Covey explains,
We control our actions, but the consequences that flow from those actions are controlled by principles.
The only way to avoid negative consequences, then, is to understand the principles governing natural consequences. Hence, highly successful people are continually learning and striving to better understand the world around them.
You can’t be free to act if you don’t understand the consequences of your behavior. Ignorance/'ɪɡnərəns/is not bliss/blɪs/, but bondage/'bɑndɪdʒ/to negative consequences without understanding the source and reason for those consequences. Combine this ignorance with a victim mentality and you have a destructive cocktail.
Yet, once you realize that every choice — even small ones — will yield an outcome, you can then decide which outcomes you want. No choice is free. Every choice is tied to an outcome. Thus, every choice has meaning.
The final consequence (and cost) of every choice is TIME! You can’t get your time back. Of course, you can course correct. You can learn from past mistakes. You can solve problems. But there is always a cost. Once you realize that, you’re far more sensitive about spending time on non-essential activities.
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Success (and happiness) is a choice
Success, health, and happiness are all consequences. They are bi-products.
They are effects, not causes.
You can’t control the effects; principles control these. However, you can control the causes of these things, which are your behaviors. Negative environmental factors? Change them.
A recent meta-analysis shows that most people misunderstand confidence. Confidence doesn’t lead to high performance. Rather, confidence is a bi-product of previous performance.For example, if you start your day well, you’re likely to have confidence throughout the rest of your day. If you start poorly, that prior performance will sap your confidence, even subconsciously.
Get this clear: confidence is a direct reflection of past performance. Hence, yesterday is more important than today. Luckily, today is tomorrow’s yesterday. So, even if your confidence today isn’t optimal, your confidence tomorrow is still within your control.
Once you’ve made the first mental shift, you know that your emotional state is *your own responsibility and the product of your choices. If you want to be confident, that’s up to you. If you want to be happy, that’s up to you. If you want to be successful, that’s up to you.
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Momentum is essential
“When you experience positive momentum, you’ll never want it to stop.” — Dan Sullivan, founder of Strategic Coach
Finally, people who have experienced this first mental shift really care about momentum. They’ve worked hard to develop their momentum and know what it feels like to not have momentum.Being without momentum is rough. It’s how most people live their lives. And without momentum, results are minimal, even with lots of effort.
Consistency is key to developing momentum. You get it by putting intentional effort toward a singular goal or vision, and eventually the compound effect takes over. It’s as though several outside sources are working for your good. Because, they are.
Keeping momentum once you have it, then, becomes very important. Hence, you must maintain a thirst for continual learning and growth.
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Most people get stuck at the first shift
If you take complete responsibility for your life and choices, you will develop a love for learning. You’ll come to understand and live principles which will organically facilitate success in your life.
However, there’s a far higher level beyond this first shift, and most people never getthere.Inthe book, Tribal Leadership authors Dave Logan, John King, and Halee Fischer-Wright explain the different cultures of organizations.
Most organizations operate in a “Stage 3” culture, where everyone is “out for themselves.” Thus, the goal of Stage 3 cultures is competition rather than collaboration. Yet, this competition actually occurs with the other people within the same organization. Everyone is trying to “get up the ladder.” Hence, there is sucking up, backstabbing, secrecy, and other nonsense.
People within these cultures don’t care about the organization as a whole. They only care about what the organization can do for them. They also only engage in relationships so far as those relationships benefit them. It’s all about them. And for this reason, they suffer. They can’t think beyond their own needs and wishes. Thus, their vision for themselves and the world is actually quite small and limited.
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The primary stumbling/ˈstʌmblɪŋ/blocks for successful people who have made the first shift are as follows:
• It’s all about “them”
• Their vision doesn’t extend beyond their own needs and goals
• They become satisfied with and distracted by their success
• They stop doing the very things that created their success (i.e., they stop learning and working)
• They forget their “why”
• They become perfectionist, and lose their drive to fail and learn
• Theyover-attachthemselves to their success andperceived/pɚ’siv/identity
• They go from offense to defense — rather than seeking more they focus their energy on maintaining what they’ve acquired
• They become obsessed/əb'sest/with constant affirmation/ˌæfɚ'meʃən/from themselves and others, and stop seeking genuine/ˈdʒɛnjuɪn/feedback
• They don’t learn how to work well with others
• They think their way is the “right” way
• They can’t trust other people enough to delegate or collaborate/kə'læbəret/
If you are seeking a life of individual happiness and prosperity/prɑ'spɛrəti/, you need read no further.
However, if you want a much higher degree of growth, relationships, and contribution, here’s how the second shift works.
To be continued.
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