Most of the worst decisions or actions people make that almost always end in major regret are rooted to this point.
The immature person has done little to cultivate space between a triggering thought caused by an external event (like being insulted) and their responding behaviour.
In other words, they reacted without a breath and without thought.
You must develop more self-control in this area than any other emotional management aspect. This kind of thing gets people locked up for a lifetime because they acted in the heat of the moment where their emotions were allowed to swallow them up.
To get better at this, you cultivate the ‘gap.’
We all have the power to stay calm and maintain space even when we feel a wash of anger flow over us. What we do with the anger can be the difference between major subsequent regret or the relief that you stayed strong.
This will also garner respect and trust from those around you.
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