现在，就想

《Friends》第一季第七集里面，Rachel与Ross有一段对话，看了以后陷入了思考：

故事的背景是遇到大停电后，一帮朋友都在讨论自己再哪些奇怪的地方爱爱过，瑞秋因为自己没有过这样的经历而觉得失落疑惑沮丧。

Rachel: I just never had a relationship with that kind of passion, you know, where you have to have somebody right there, in the middle of at theme park.

Ross:Well,it was the only thing to do there that didn't have a line.

Rachel:There, well, see? Barry wouldn't even kiss me on a miniature golfcourse.

Ross:Comeon.

Rachel: No, he said we were holding up the people behind us.

Ross:(sarcastically) And you didn't marry him because...?

Rachel: I mean, do you think there are people who go through life never having that kind of...

Ross:Probably. But you know, I'll tell you something. Passionis way overrated.

Rachel:Yeah right.

Ross: It is. Eventually, it kind of... burns out. But hopefully what you're left with is trust, and security, and...well, in the case of my ex-wife, lesbianism.

So, you know, for all of those people who miss out onthat passion... thing, there's all that other good stuff.

Ross开导Rachel说，激情有时候被过高的看待了。事实上，激情只是一时间的爆发，重要的是，最后双方都彼此信任彼此拥有安全感。

ROSS说的很对，让我很感动，很受启发。激情只是一时间的山洪暴发，彼此信任相互扶持相爱才能细水长流。

但是，去你的，老子还是很想要那种have to have somebody right there的激情。不然，枉为年轻。