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The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

“Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame. Perfectionism is self destructive simply because there's no such thing as perfect. Perfection is an unattainable goal. Additionally, perfectionism is more about perception - we want to be perceived as perfect. Again, this is unattainable - there is no way to control perception, regardless how much time and energy we spend trying.” Pg.57

（完美主义是一个容易上瘾又自我毁灭的一个过程。我们常常会去想：如果我看起来完美，拥有完美的人生，把所有事情都做完美，我就不会收到别人的责怪，议论，也不必感到丢脸，可是成为一个”完美“的人是一个不可能达到的目标。我们是否“完美”完全取决于别人是否认为你“完美”，所以我们才会常常通过各种方式去证明自己。但无论你多么努力去证明自己，你是永远不可能完全左右别人的想法的。）