Make decision for your life, ple

Some people agree that children should be given freedom to make their decisions on daily matters, like food, clothes and entertainment, while some believe that too much freedom will boost up selfishness among the younger generations. As a mother and an educationalist, I agree to empower children to make their own choice in life rather than control them all the times.

Some benefits can be seen once we allow children to take charge of their daily life. First of all, they will start to shoulder responsibility. Once they understand that they will take all the consequences of every decision, they will soon start to be cautious. For example, if a boy chose to wear T-shirt in cold weather to show his individuality, he will soon suffer from the coldness or even illness. Then he will think twice next time and make better choice between comfort and individuality.

Secondly, they will acquire a sense of accomplishment when they can choose on their preferences. Children are not parents' belongs. They are individuals with conscious mind and human rights. Whenever parents respect them as decent individuals, children will learn to value themselves and the world around them.

Thirdly, the diverse characteristic enhance children's creativity which should be nourished from childhood. We should not place too much restriction on children's life but expect them to be creative and innovative when they grow up. All skills should be learnt by error and consistent practice. If we let them choose the entertainment they enjoy, then they can have deep understanding and appreciation in that field. This entertainment might not please everyone but at least they make the children happy and relaxed.

However, we understand there are some concerns about children's self-management skills and cognition levels which might lead to awful or harmful decisions. To monitor their decision-making process, we can provide guidance and suggestions. As parents, they can be children's best example in life showing them how to work, how to love, and how to enjoy life. Or we can support kids to find their admirable role models. While children are making tough decision, parents can always help them analyze situation and provide good suggestions. Then we respect whatever decision they make after thorough consideration.

We love our children so we learn to let go of them. We sincerely hope they can live their own life, enjoying whatever they choose. No matter what happen, parents will always support them, anytime, anywhere.