Maybe it's inevitable for lovers to have quarrels, especial for those who own the opposite personality .In this case, how to handle it when argue emerge determine the path of your relationship.
Generally, When lovers have quarrels they tend to protect themselves from being hurt and are used to fighting back. But that's a terrible choice, indeed. Try to think about that kind of experience you've gotten last time when you fight with your lover. It was annoyed, or even terrible, right? Both of you suffered from it, even if you tried to aviod the pain through fighting against your partner. The growing angry tormented you but you had on idea of getting rid of it, only fighted back. Indeed, once both of you are trapped into this dilemma, your quarrel, with on doubt, will gradually deteriorate. It does hurt your love that when you feel fainful even heartbroken, you probably will give up this relationship.How awful!
So what should we do in that situation when you are even out of your mind? Just take a breath and try to calm down. Think about this: since he/she is your lover, why do you treat him/her with this awful manner. Why not to change the way you react to your temper and learn to control your anger. Stop fighting and sing a song to her, or go out and bring back with abunch of flower. Everything is going to bo OK.
So try to be the person who manage to improve your quarrel pattern. Learn to take control of your temper and be kind to your lover.
It's not easy, but we ought to do this.
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