如何知道自己是不是有控制欲?
1. Everything has to happen according to their schedule
2. They do not like delegating tasks
3. Signs of a control freak include being extremely moody
4. They lash out at the most minor of inconveniences
5. They are extremely critical in nature
6. They always have to know every little thing
7. They always have to have the last word
8. They never admit they are wrong
9. They cannot work in a team
10. They use ‘constructive criticism’ to have their ways
11. They tend to be perfectionists
核心:
1.所有的事情都要按照他们的要求来发生,且容易因为很小的事情去责备其他人
2.希望知道对方生活中所有的细节,以完美的标准去要求或者干预别人的生活,可能会通过“建议”“为你好”的方式包装自己的责备
3.总是觉得自己是对的,不会承认自己有错,总是把错误归咎于别人
4.觉得自己是“无所不知的”,总是不敢“下放工作”,觉得别人总是做不好
其实他们的内心很在意别人的看法
如何改变?
1. By delegating more tasks
2. By trusting others
相信对方知道该如何去经营自己的生活,不需要你过多的指点。
3. By exploring one’s feelings
4. By accepting everybody’s imperfections
5. By practicing yoga
核心:
1.体验自己的情绪变化,学着管理自己的情绪
2.相信他人有能力过自己的生活,去接受不完美,去学会放权
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