chapter9

Have you thought about death or dying? How did you feel when you were thinking about them?

The first time I realized that death was my grandmother's death, because I grew up with my grandmother, and my grandmother's death made us miserable. I think parents are getting older, and they will leave us for 20 or 30 years. Whenever I think about this, I feel very sad and feel sorry for myself. How can I make them more relaxed?

How knowing “then you die” would affect the way we live? What is the sunny side of death?

The worst moment of our life maybe also is the most transformational. In a bizarre, backwards way, death is the light by which the shadow of all of life’s meaning is measured. Maybe we can realize what is the most important thing to us .

Did you have a transformational moment growing up? Something you would consider a wake-up call?

I didn't have a transformational moment growing up.

面对死亡，我们总是那么的无能为力，奶奶死的时候我只有十来岁，那也是我第一次意识到死亡，那时候大人们都对我们说，奶奶只是去了个很远的地方，那里没有病痛。我愿意相信这个善良的谎言，现在十多年过去了，奶奶的脸已经在我的记忆里模糊掉了，但是奶奶曾经教的一些东西我一直都记得。

Without death, everything would feel inconsequential, all experience arbitrary, all metrics and values suddenly zero. 因为死亡我们才会去想得更多，做得更多。我们害怕死亡，我们害怕有些事我们还没有去做，就再也没有机会了。死亡警醒着我们。

look up to（尤指对年长者）敬仰，钦佩，仰慕 If you look up to someone, especially someone older than you, you respect and admire them.

drone on 唠唠叨叨地说下去He can drone on for hours about his pet subjects

bump into偶然遇见；意外碰到 If you bump into someone you know, you meet them unexpectedly.