2017-07-06

2017.6.8 今天进入habit5: SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND, THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD, 阅读完小标题FOUR AUTOBIOGRAPHICAL RESPONSES Habit 5 : Seek first to understand, then to be understand TM Principles of empathic communication Character and communication Empathic listening Diagnose before you prescribe Words 1 therapeutic adjective UK ​ /ˌθer.əˈpjuː.tɪk/ US ​ /ˌθer.əˈpjuː.t̬ɪk/ ​ C1 causing someone to feel happier and more relaxed or to be more healthy 治疗的；有疗效的；有益健康的 example I find gardening very therapeutic. 我发现园艺非常有益健康。 e.g. I always believe that running is very therapeutic. It's deeply therapeutic and healing because it gives a person"psychological air". 2 deplete verb [ T ] UK ​ /dɪˈpliːt/ US ​ /dɪˈpliːt/ ​ to reduce something in size or amount, especially supplies of energy, money, etc. 消耗；耗费；减少 example If we continue to deplete the earth's natural resources, we will cause serious damage to the environment. 如果继续耗费地球的自然资源，我们将对环境造成严重的破坏。 The illness depletes the body of important vitamins. 这种疾病能消耗人体中重要的维生素。 e.g. That last holiday seriously depleted my bank account! 上次度假花掉了我银行账户里的一大笔钱！ But in  the long run, it severely depletes both P and PC 3 dumbfounded adjective UK ​ /ˌdʌmˈfaʊn.dɪd/ US ​ /ˌdʌmˈfaʊn.dɪd/ also dumbstruck, ​ so shocked that you cannot speak 吓得目瞪口呆的，惊得说不出话的 example He was dumbfounded by the allegations. 他被这些指控惊得说不出话来。 e.g. I was dumbfounded by his accusations. It was totally dumbfounded. 4 verbalize verb [ I or T ] formal uk usually verbalise UK ​ /ˈvɜː.bəl.aɪz/ US ​ /ˈvɝː.bə.laɪz/ ​ to express ideas, opinions, or emotions in words 用言辞表达 example He found it hard to verbalize his feelings towards his son. 他觉得难以用语言来描述他对儿子的感情。 He was so excited that he can't verbalize his feelings. I tried to verbalize his needs and concerns, and he began to open up. 5 moron noun [ C ] UK ​ /ˈmɔː.rɒn/ US ​ /ˈmɔːr.ɑːn/ informal ​ a very stupid person 蠢人，傻子，笨蛋 I have some credibility, too. I am not a moron. Some moron smashed into the back of my car yesterday. 昨天一个笨蛋追了我的车尾。 [ as form of address ] You moron! 你这个笨蛋！ Sentences Communication experts estimate, in fact, that only10 percent of our communication is represented by the words we say. Another 30 percent is represented by our sounds, and 60 percent by our body language language. In empathic listening, you listen with your ears, but you also, and more importantly, listen with your eyes and with your heart. You listen for feeling,  for meaning. 这段对我们的日常交流特别具有指导意义，我们在日常交际中不应该仅仅关注说话内容，与声音，更重要的是我们的肢体语言。 Seek first to understand, then to be understood.You have got nothing to lose. 核心句。 Summary Today's reading is very useful for me. I utterly agree with the author's opinion that " seek first to understand, then to be understand. " Besides, the writer also offers us some daily examples to make us understand deeply. I believe this part is remarkably fundamental for everyone.