be soft

A man should stand up for himself but only when needed, for not only daring but also wisdom is required to make a man.Knowing when to be hard and when soft is the wisdom told by the philosophy of yin and yang. Laozi said: hard things are easy to bend. When it comes to a relationship with a hard and bad-tempered persona, acting tough might not be the best strategy, for it may hurt both sides, and you may still lose the game.Be soft if you cherish your relationship, learn to talk nicely or not at all.If the partner really cares about you, he won’t crush your pride when he wins his. When one is already at the top, what’s the point of suppressing down the other? When one wins what he wants, there will be nothing for him to fight for.A man in a fight wants only one thing, the thing that blinds him from seeing what matters, his pride. To protect it, he acts on his wrath, not sanity, not like you, as you’ve transcended the primitive dynamics of your ego. Care not the illusion of the pride, loosen your grip on the trivial to grasp the substantial.In this case, a functioning relationship outweighs a verbal triumph.

Even when you face a true enemy, a clash won’t be necessary if you act on the following creeds:

Make yourself socially connected to avoid misperception of your image;

Make your principle acknowledged by your peers and hold on to it;

Make your integrity witnessed by making everything you do public;

Make your deeds legit by staying within your boundary and never crossing others’.

By doing so, you won’t be the initiator of a conflict. Either playing tough or acting softly, you are perfectly justified.Then let go of your ego, pick your side, speak not for yourself but for others, so that you can win friends on this. Talk softly and nicely to invite their indignation at him. You will lose the quarrel but win the crowd. That’s where being soft can get you.