conversation is like a miniskirt

it used to be in order to be polite we just follow the advice of Henry Higgen's "my fair lady" stick to weather and my health

but it's not a good topic now

don't multitask.be present/in that moment. don't be half in it and half out of it

don't pontificate好为人师

true listening requires a setting aside of oneself

use open-ended questions. let them describe it

go with the flow顺其自然

if u don't know,say that u don't know.err on the side of caution

don't equate your experiences with theors

try not to repeat yourself

stay out of weeds别说废话

listen. if your month is open，you are not learning.

we don't listen with the intent to understand,we listen with the intent to reply