我就是我

《我是我自己》

    作者：萨提亚 

  我就是我。

  这个世界上，没有一个人完全像我。

  有一些人某些部分像我，但没有一个人完全和我一模一样。

我就是我

  所以，一切出自于我的都真真实实属于我，因为那是我个人的选择。

  我拥有我的一切：

  我的身体，以及一切它的举动；

  我的思想，以及所有的想法和意念；

  我的眼睛，以及一切看到的影像；

  我的感受，不论是什么，愤怒、喜乐、挫折、爱、失望、兴奋；

  我的嘴巴，和一切从口中所出的话语，温文有礼的，甜蜜的或粗鲁的，对的或不对的；

  我的声音，喧嚷的或轻柔的；

  还有我所有的行动，不论是对别人或对自己的。

  我拥有我的幻想、我的梦想、我的希望和我的恐惧。

  我拥有我所有的胜利与成功、所有的失败与错误。

  因为我拥有全部的我，我可以和自己成为亲密熟悉的朋友。

  由于我能如此，所以我能爱自己，并且能够友善地和我的每一部分友善相处。

  那么，我就可以使我整个人的运作状态，带给自己最大的幸福。

  我知道自己有些地方让我困惑，也有别的部分是我也不明白的。

  不过，只要我友善地爱我自己，我就能勇敢地、满怀希望地寻求途径来解决这些困惑，并且寻求方法以期更了解自己。

  然而，不论我在在任何时刻，看起来、听起来如何，不论我说什么、做什么，或想什么、感受什么，这都是我。这是真实的，而且代表了那个时刻我的状况。

  稍后当我回想当时我是如何看起来、听起来的样子，自己所说的话和做过的事，还有自己的想法和感受，有些可能已不再合适了。我能够摒弃那些不再合适的，而保留那些经过证明后合适的，并且再创造一些新的来取代被我摒弃的那些。

  我可以看、听、感受、思考、说话和做事。

  我拥有工具足以生活下去、与别人亲近和富有生产力，并且能够使我周围的人事物呈现出意义和秩序。

  我拥有我自己，所以我能掌管我自己。

  我就是我自己，而且我很好。

维吉尼亚·萨提亚(19161988),家庭治疗创始人,国际著名心理治疗师。美国著名的《人类行为杂志》( Human Behavior)称她为“每个人的

家庭治疗大师”。她被誉为“二十世纪最有影响力的五位治疗师之一”,是西方世界十位评价最高的治疗师中唯一的女性。

“I am me”

by Virginia Satir

Virginia came to write this poem when she was working with an angry fifteen-year-old girl

who had a lot of questions about herself and what life meant.

I am me.

In all the world, there is no one exactly like me.

There are persons who have some parts like me,

but no one adds up exactly like me.

Therefore, everything that comes out of me

is authentically mine because I alone choose it.

I own everything about me

my body including everything it does;

my mind including all its thoughts and ideas;

my eyes including the images of all they behold;

my feelings whatever they may be...

anger,

joy,

frustration,

love,

disappointment,

excitement

my mouth and all the words that come out of it

polite,

sweet or rough,

correct or incorrect;

my voice loud or soft.

And all my actions, whether they be to others or to myself.

I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears.

I own all my triumphs and successes,

all my failures and mistakes.

Because I own all of me I can become intimately acquainted with me.

By doing so I can love me and be friendly with me in all parts.

I can then make it possible for all of me to work in my best interests.

I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me,

and other aspects that I do not know.

But as long as I am friendly and loving to myself,

I can courageously and hopefully, look for solutions to the puzzles

and for ways to find out more about me.

However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think

and feel at a given moment in time is me.

This is authentic and represents where I am in that moment in time.

When I review later how I looked and sounded, what I said and did, and how I

thought and felt, some parts may turn out to be unfitting.

I can discard that which is unfitting, and keep that which proved fitting,

And invent something new for that which I discarded.

I can see, hear, feel, think, say and do.

I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive,

and to make sense and order out of the world of people

and things outside of me.

I own me, and therefore I can engineer me.

I am me and I am okay.