—— 选自Observer网站（吉玛译）
Somebody once told me the definition of hell:
有人曾经告诉我地狱的定义：
'On your last day on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become.' — Anonymous"
“在你生命的最后一天，你将会遇见原本你可以成为的那个人。”——匿名
Sometimes, to become successful and get closer to the person you can become, you don’t need to add more things — you need to give some of them up.
有时候，要想成功，更靠近你想成为的人，你不需要添加更多的东西——你需要放弃一些东西。
There are certain things that are universal, which will make you successful if you give up on them, even though each one of us could have a different definition of success.
有很多需要放弃的东西，你知我知，放弃它们，你就会成功，即使是每个人对于成功都有不同的看法。。
You can give up on some of them as soon as today, while it might take a bit longer to give up on others.
今天你就可以放弃其中一些，而放弃其他可能需要更长的时间。
1.Give Up On The Unhealthy Lifestyle
1.放弃不健康的生活方式。
“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.” — Jim Rohn
"照顾好你的身体。它是你生命的依附。”——吉姆·罗恩
If you want to achieve anything in life, everything starts here. First, you should take care of your health, and there are only three things you need to keep in mind:
如果你想在生活中有所成就，一切都从这里开始。首先，你应该注意你的健康，你需要记住的只有三件事。
Quality Sleep
有质睡眠
Healthy Diet
健康饮食
Physical Activity
身体活动
Small steps, but you will thank yourself one day.
虽然只是小小的一步，但总有一天你会感谢自己的。
2.Give Up The Short-term Mindset
2.放弃短期思维模式
“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” — Mae West
“你只活一次，但如果你做对了，一次就够了。”——梅。韦斯特
Successful people set long-term goals, and they know these aims are merely the result of short-term habits that they need to do every day.
成功人士制定长期目标，他们知道长期目标仅仅是他们每天需要做的短期习惯的结果。
These healthy habits shouldn’t be something you do; they should be something you embody.
这些健康的习惯不应该是你去做的事情，而是因为你是这样的人而去做这样的事。
There is a difference between: “Working out to get a summer body” and “Working out because that’s who you are.”
“健身是为了一个好看的身材”和“锻炼身体，因为这就是你自己”是有区别的。
3. Give Up On Playing Small
“畏缩的态度不能改变世界，隐藏自己内心的潜能并不会让你身边的人觉得更有安全感。我们都应该发挥自己内心的潜能，就像小孩子那样每个人都一样，当我们让自己发光时，我们不自觉地影响到身边的人，让她们也能这么做，我们不但摆脱了自己的恐惧，我们的存在也自然地解放了别人。”玛丽安-威廉姆森
If you never try and take great opportunities or allow your dreams to become realities, you will never unleash your true potential.
如果你从不尝试去抓住机会，让你的梦想变成现实，你就永远不会释放你真正的潜能。
And the world will never benefit from what you could have achieved.
而世界将永远不会从你所能取得的成就中获益。
So voice your ideas, don’t be afraid to fail, and certainly don’t be afraid to succeed.
所以，说出你的想法，不要害怕失败，当然也不要害怕成功。
4. Give Up Your Excuses
4.放弃你的借口
“It’s not about the cards you’re dealt, but how you play the hand.” ― Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture
“不管你的牌有多烂，你都应该好好打。”——兰迪·波许，《最后一课》。
Successful people know that they are responsible for their life, no matter their starting point, weaknesses, and past failures.
成功人士知道他们需要对自己的人生负责，不管起点在哪里，缺陷有多少，或者过去的失败有多惨烈。
Realising that you are responsible for what happens next in your life is both frightening and exciting.
意识到你要对你生命中接下来发生的事情负责，这既可怕又令人兴奋。
And when you do, that becomes the only way you can become successful, because excuses limit and prevent us from growing personally and professionally.
当你这样做的时候，这就成为你成功的唯一途径，因为借口限制且阻碍了我们个人和专业的成长。
Own your life; no one else will.
把握你的人生，除了你，没有别的人会来替你做这件事。
5. Give Up The Fixed Mindset
5.放弃固有心态
“The future belongs to those who learn more skills and combine them in creative ways.” ― Robert Greene, Mastery
未来属于那些学习更多技能并以创造性的方式将技能结合在一起的人。——罗伯特·格林，大师。
People with a fixed mindset think their intelligence or talents are pre-determined traits that cannot be changed. They also believe that talent alone leads to success — without hard work. But they’re wrong.
固有心态人认为他们的智力或才能是无法改变的，是先天决定的特质。他们还认为，只有天才能成功——无需努力。但他们错了。
Successful people know this. They invest an immense amount of time on a daily basis to develop a growth mindset, acquire new knowledge, learn new skills and change their perception so that it can benefit their lives.
成功的人知道。他们每天投入大量的时间来培养他们的成长心态，获取新的知识，学习新的技能，改变他们的认知，从而在生活获益。 Who you are today is not who you have to be tomorrow.
今天的你，不能代表未来的你。
6. Give Up Believing In The “Magic Bullet.”
6.放弃相信“灵丹妙药”。
“Every day, in every way, I’m getting better and better” — Émile Coué
“每一天，在各方面，我都变得越来越好”——埃米尔·库伊。
Overnight success is a myth.
一夜成名只是天方夜谭。
Successful people know that making small continuous improvement every day will be compounded over time and give them desired results.
成功人士知道，每天不断地小进步会随着时间的推移而改变，并给他们带来预期的效果。
That is why you should plan for the future, but focus on the day that’s ahead of you, and improve just 1% every day.
这就是为什么你要做未来计划，但要把注意力集中当前，每天只提高1%。
7. Give Up Your Perfectionism
7.放弃你的完美主义
“Shipping beats perfection.” — Khan Academy’s Development Mantra
“与其苛求完美，不如直接发布(上市)。”——可汗学院的开发原则之一
Nothing will ever be perfect, no matter how much you try.
无论你多么努力，没有什么是完美的。
Fear of failure (or even fear of success) often prevents you from taking action and putting your creation out there in the world. But a lot of opportunities will be lost if you wait for things to be right.
害怕失败(甚至害怕成功)往往会阻碍你采取行动，阻止我们把创造力释放在这个世界，所以大量的机会因为我们等待正确的时机而流失。
So “ship,” and then improve (that 1%).
所以先“发布（上市）” 再改进(这1%)
8. Give Up Multi-tasking
8.放弃多任务
“Most of the time multitasking is an illusion. You think you are multitasking, but in reality, you are actually wasting time switching from one task to another ”—Bosco Tjan
大多数时候，多任务处理是一种错觉。你认为你在一心多用，但实际上，你实际上是在浪费时间，从一个任务切换到另一个任务。—Bosco Tjan
Successful people know this.
成功的人知道这个道理。
That’s why they choose one thing and then beat it into submission. No matter what it is — a business idea, a conversation, or a workout. 这就是为什么他们选择一件事，然后战胜它。无论它是什么——一个商业理念，一个对话，或者锻炼。
Being fully present and committed to one taskis indispensable.
全身心地投入到一个任务中是责无旁贷的。
9. Give Up Your Need to Control Everything
9.放弃控制一切的需要。
“Some things are up to us, and some things are not up to us.” — Epictetus
“有些事情是由我们决定的，有些事情并不是我们能决定的。”——爱比克泰德。
Differentiating these two is crucial.
区分这两者是至关重要的。
Detach from the things you cannot control, focus on the ones you can, and know that sometimes, the only thing you will be able to control is your attitude towards something.
分离出你无法控制的事情，专注于你能控制的事情，并且了解，有时候你唯一能控制的就是你对某件事的态度。
Remember: nobody can be frustrated while saying “Bubbles” in an angry voice.
记住:用生气的声音发出气泡声，别人也不会感觉失意
10. Give Up On Saying YES To Things That Don’t Support Your Goals
10. 放弃放弃对不符合你的目标的事情说好。
“成就小的人，牺牲也小，成就大的，牺牲也大，成就非凡，牺牲也非凡。。”——詹姆斯·艾伦
Successful people know that in order to accomplish their goals, they will have to say NO to certain tasks, activities, and demands from their friends, family, and colleagues.
成功人士知道想要达到目的，他们必须对来自朋友、家庭或者社区的任务、活动或者需求说不
In the short-term, you might sacrifice a bit of instant gratification, but when your goals come to fruition, it will all be worth it.
在短期内，你可能会牺牲片刻的满足感，但当你的目标实现时，一切都是值得
11. Give Up The Toxic People
11.放弃那些恶毒的人。
“Stay away from negative people. They have a problem for every solution.” — Albert Einstein
远离消极的人。他们对每个解决方案都有问题。”——爱因斯坦
People you spend the most time with add up to who you become.
你花最多的时间相处的人会影响你将成为什么样的人。
If you spend time with those who refuse to take responsibility for their life, always find excuses and blame others for the situation they are in, your average will go down, and with it your opportunity to succeed.
如果你和那些拒绝为自己的生活负责,总是找借口,因自己处境责怪别人的人呆在一起，你的平均水平会下降，你成功的机会更小。
However, if you spend time with people who are trying to increase their standard of living, and grow personally and professionally, your average will go up, and you will become more successful.
然而，如果你花时间和那些试图提高生活水平，提高自身个人和专业水平人相处，你的平均水平会上升，你成功的机会更大。
Take a look at around you, and see if you need to make any changes.
看看你周围的情况，看看你是否需要做些改变。
12. Give Up Your Need To Be Liked
12. 放弃想要被人喜欢的念头
“You can be the juiciest, ripest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be people who hate peaches.” — Dita Von Teese
“你可以成为世界上最美味、最成熟的桃子，但是这个世界上还是会有讨厌桃子的人。”——蒂塔·万提斯
Think of yourself as a market niche.
把自己想象成一个市场小摊主。
There will be a lot of people who like that niche, and there will be individuals who don’t. And no matter what you do, you won’t be able to make the entire market like you.
会有很多人喜欢这个摊位，也会有个别人不喜欢，不管你做什么，你都不可能让整个市场都喜欢你
This is completely natural, and there’s no need to justify yourself.
这是正常的，没有必要为自己辩护。
The only thing you can do is to remain authentic, improve and provide value every day, and know that the growing number of “haters” means that you are doing remarkable things.
你能做的唯一一件事就是每天保持真实，提高和提供价值，并且知道越来越多的“仇恨者”意味着你在做着了不起的事情。
13. Give Up Wasting Time
13.放弃浪费时间
“The trouble is, you think you have time” — Jack Kornfield
“问题是，你觉得你有时间”——杰克·科恩菲尔德。
You only have this one crazy and precious life. That’s why you owe it to yourself to see who you can become, and how far you can go.
你只有这疯狂而宝贵的生命。这就是为什么你要知道你能成为什么样的人，你能走多远。
However, to do that, you need to ditch meaningless time wasters and stop allowing them to be an escape from your most important goals .
然而，要做到这一点，你需要丢弃那些无意义的浪费时间的事情，不要让它们成为你逃离重要目标的工具。
To do that, you should learn how to take control over your focus, attention and make the most out of your 24 hours within a day.
要做到这一点，你应该学会如何控制自己的焦点、注意力，并在一天之内充分利用你的24小时。
Remember that you will die, so never stop creating your legacy and doing the things that will enrich your life.
记住，你会死，所以永远不要停止创造你的遗产，把时间花在丰富人生的事情上。
Link:13 Things You Should Give Up If You Want To Be Successful
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