For years, I have had this belief that one should be bold enough to speak up in public. I pushed myself out of the comfort zone and to talk with people whom i am not intimate with. This is exactly what I did these five years living with my parents in law. I considered talking to them about trivial things in life is a way of respect and listening to them is even more important.
Until now, I have stopped chatting with my mother in law for about 2 months because of a meaningless quarrel. I thought my life would be miserable after the quarrel, however, it had become unexpectedly better! This made me realize maybe I do not need to talk that much in my own home, which is supposed to the more comfortable place for me to be myself.
The benefits of being a quiet person is multiples:
1. It is my nature. I do not speak much in my own family. I am not introverted or a loner, I just prefer to be quiet. All the activities I enjoy doing are quiet: reading, yoga, walking, etc.
2. Being silent means I have more time reflecting on my own life instead of being interrupted by other people, especially people do not have much wisdom and tell you the same story repetitively. With that amount of time spent in being a good listener, I could have done exercise, housework, reading, or even lying in bed. This is better for my body and mind.
3. Being silent helps me remain mysterious to people. They may respect me more. Also, I can avoid arguments derived from a daily meaningless jabber.
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