13th,Jan
We choose to share not only to show our happy or sorrow, but also give us or others an opportunity to analyze the whole thing. What we have to be grateful for, where and how we can improve ourselves. We choose to be positive not because it is a wonderful world, we want to make it a better world. Change yourself first.
14thJan
Give yourself a reason and an opportunity to be human. Happiness is not a random thing. Life is full of ups and downs, if you want to be happy, you have to co-create your reality.
Free yourself two minutes per day to be grateful for the whole world. One minute find some different or special views in your surroundings, and another one make you feel happy.
15th.Jan
Admit you are not perfect. Choose a better way to enjoy daily life and improve yourself. To change habits is a difficult but an useful way to co-create reality. There are two different ways of changes. First one is daily changes, which means it takes a long time to change your habits. While another one is acute change, just like you use a hammer to crash the wall. We have to change many aspects in our minds, what to think, how to do, what is the reality and so on. Change means a lot to your positive career.
There is an ABC in changes. A means affect, means motions. What is your current thinking when sometimes good or bad happens. Give yourself an opportunity to be a human. B means behavior. You should do something to change your motions before fully consideration. C means cognition. Before something happens and after that, what you do and how you think changes your motion. That is the most benificial way to be positive.
Change is difficult.
Change is also valuable.
16th.Jan
We all want to enjoy happiness and success eternally, while it is a day dream. However, we can change ours thinking. Focus on what we have right here and right now is a beneficial way. We get easily satisfied because we have nothing more to get, we do not need anything else.
Peak experience is the most happiest experience in a period in your life. It occurs probably when you enjoy a good book, have a wonderful meal, solve a difficult problem or find your soul mate. Though you feel very happy when these things happen, it flows away not so long. There are ups and downs in your emotions. We can create more peak experience in order to change ourselves and to be happier.
Our minds can not tell the difference from the reality and the imagination. So we can co-create a better life and a more beautiful world to fool ourselves. Focus on the positive things.
17th.Jan
There is only one way to be confident that you tell yourself you are confident. Not only in imagination, but also in action. When you are walking, you show your proud to the crowds. When you are having a meal, everyone will enjoy your smile in your face. Show your positive energy to this beautiful world. Show your powerful strength to your family and friends. Action is much better than words.
Everyday we have to do something difficult and different. We can not be satisfied and happy when we just do what we are familiar with. We have to go into uncomfort zone in order to improve ourselves, to change our habits, to persuit our happiness.
How we shake hands, how we face to problems, how we get to work and so on, these are our inner heart can control. If you wanna show your confidence to others, you will shake hands firmly and watch them with a smile not avoid eyes contact or show an embarrassed looking. That is the all your tell others who you are. If you are positive or you wanna to be optimistic, others will see some special in your body language. Again, act is much more useful than words.
18th.Jan
Do you have lots of New Year's plans? How many of them? We all know that we have to keep doing the same 21 days or more as a string to get a great habits, to make it as a ritual, to make it as a part of our daily life.
According to the research, we do not have much self-discipline to clear out the old and make the way for the new. We have to focus on what we have to change. If we have lots of plans to focus, we can not put all of our passion or energy on each of them, which causes we can not get great consequences even one of them. So here is the secret: focus on only one on a period time. Make it useful, meaningful in your life. Make it as a ritual just as brushing your teeth before enjoying a sound sleep.
19th,Jan
How to do somthing different and difficult? First, hard working. Reading lots of materials, getting more experiences, doing exercises again and again and buring yourself in learning. Make the most use of the time to get what you wanna do. And then, give yourself a daily routines. We are not robots. You can not be in full speed, you can not rush to the end at first in a marathon. Give yourself some leisure time and place to rest, and let the subconsious works for you. Maybe you will know how to solve a problem when you enjoy a wonderful music, or get a creative and fantastic idea to improve your efficiency. Last but very important, give yourself an comment. Is it really useful and helpful? The foreplay, do I put all of energy on it? The A-HA moment, is it really helpful to my life? We have to give us a conclusion to retell ourselves that we do lots of good work, and also we can improve ourselves im many aspects.
20th,Jan
The topic today is how to write journal and why it is important. There is an experiment that many people write their sorrow memories in couple of days. In first four days, they feel much more unhappy than the others, who write anything they want. That may shows the journal can not relieve bitter or sorrow. However, since the fifth day from the beginning, they show less sorrow or unhappy.
We have to focus on the three parts in the journal. First, our affect. And then, our behaviors. Last, our congntive feelings, which teacher says ABC.
BELOW IS MY THOUGHT
After one week learning, positive psychology course is gradually becoming one of my daily habits. Usually, I enjoy it and write my comment at noon before my snap. If I do not have my leisure time at noon, I remember that and take other time to make it up. I feel happy and energetic to do something valuable and difficult in order to improve myself.
Also, I get used to write, read and listen English in these days. At first, I can not keep it pace, but now, I have confident that I enjoy it and I can control it!
ACT IS MUCH IMPORTANT THAN WORDS. JUST DO IT.
21st,Jan
The process of change is not easy. It is hard to break the old habits and make way for the new. We wanna do something bigger so we have to improve ourselves.
Improve our ABC. Make it positive. For the affect, we have to give us the permission to be human. Admit sometimes there must be unhappy and injustice things in surroundings, but we should be grateful for what we already have and focus on what we really want and we are chasing for. We can find something interesting to help us. For me, basketball and running just like the life in heaven. When I get the shoot in the corner, I scream just I beat the Warriors, just win the game against my Curry. Running is a useful way to relieve my anxiety, to help me sit down quietly and focus what is really important for me. They change my behaviors. Congnitive feeling is also signficent in positive phochology. It tells us how to change and where we can do better the next time.
We must believe the ABC can not divided into three different parts. We want to improve A, we can not give up B or C. We should improve them together, which make us better and better and better, and also, we can be more confident and positive.
22nd,Jan
We should not only enjoy the wonderful consequences, but also the process to it. If we can do something bigger, something valuable to ourselves and the society, that is great. However, if we fail, we can also be proud of ourselves just like we win the game. We can still enjoy the process and admit that way can not lead to happiness so that we should change a different road. That is a failure. That is a useful try do decrease a wrong answer in our limit chooses.
We can set the goals to help us focus on the target, not a day dream but a realistic one. Imagine there is a wall in your road, what you will do? To get back and tell everyone there is a wall? To change another way to your destination? Or throw your phone over it so that you have to get over this difficult?
The first answer is that you admit you are a failure. You are complaining your surroundings and tell all people that you can not get over it. You have no confident to solve this problem.
And the other two give us different ways to break the wall. We set goals to help us to do it, because my phone is there! I have to be here! So this time, our question is not "why there is a wall", but "how can I jump over the wall". The change of the questions will give us different angles to search this world. It leads us to find solutions to the problem. Not anxiety, but passion helps us to work harder and harder.
23rd,Jan
We have the freedom and the right to choose who we wanna to be, what we wanna to do and where we wanna to go. And also, we are responsible for the whole desicions.
What you can do and what you love to do may not the same thing, if you have to give up one and choose another one. Do not be regret because when you make the dicision, you take the responsibility.
Do not waste much time to hesitate. Imagine that you are in a countryside and you are lost. Unfornately, you are alone so that you have to solve this problem by yourself. Maybe you should take a deep breath to relieve, should close your eyes for chasing peace for a while. However, you can not waste much time. You can only rely on yourself this time, this place. If you know the direction, that is good. If not, you have to think out any other ways. Or turn around, find some famous buildings. Let questions help us think, give us the courage to get the solution.
I love what I am doing! Even it is made up by myself. However, the positive thought helps me a lot to work and to learn, because my brain can not tell the difference between the imagination and the reality. Again, we decide who we are.
SEIZE THE DAY, BOYS!
MAKE YOUR LIFE EXTRAORDINARY!
24th,Jan
I get used to learn positive phychology course everyday and write something. Wonderful!
Today I do not want to review my course. I want to say something about my fantastic team–SPURS!
GO SPURS! The most successful team last 20 years in the NBA! Five championships, 20 playoffs. Lots of glory that I can not remember and write down. Today, even though JAMES gets his 30000 points and breaks the KOBE's record becoming the youngest player who gets 30000. My team wins the game. Without LEOLAND, the MVP, without GASOL, the powerful C, without GINOBILI, who always wins the game when everyone thinks it is impossible.
I love this team. They fight together. They are a family.
25th,Jan
Which is the real me? Do you think your work as a tool of living, or make it as a duty, as a calling. That is the way you do contribution to the society, the country and the whole world.
Money is good, and we can not live with it. However, we can not enjoy our limited life only with money. Money is a tool, but not the process and the terminal. We have to find how we can be happier. Enjoying a great book or watching a wonderful movie, solving a difficult problem or learning something very interesting. It depends to you.
26th,Jan
Why do we wanna to go to the gym? To be healthy. And here is the way we exercise that we give us stress. We wanna be stronger if we do more and more exercises. We always wanna to get more happy and less litter, which is human nature.
Questions lead us to the answer. Stress can help us find the way to be stronger. That is the sense. We have to work hard because the life is full of ups and downs.
Life is just as a marathon game. You have to run, because it is long. If you just walk, you are too slow and you do not get the opportunity to arrive at the terminal. However, if you run in a rush at first, you will get tired for only several minutes and make it boring. Marathon is an interesting game. We have to run, and also we must get some time relax, to slow down to relieve our anxiety and tired in order to speed up in another journey.
27th,Jan
We have to slow down. Just do one thing in a period time. In this modern society, there are lots of wonderful things we can chase for. However, we just have limit time and energy. We can not get them all. And that is the reason all of us are anxious. We are greedy that we want happy things rather than bitter ones. That is human nature.
We have to make some choices. If you love movies, and today there is a renew of SHIELD in the Internet, but you get lots of work and you do not understant them at all. So that is your choice. You have to give up one in order to make some time for another. That is the way to save time and persuit happiness.
28th,Jan
I wanna to get confidence and achievement in every day. I also wanna to be energetic to pursuit my goals.
So here is the solution. Find the time and the place you are in the most efficient and can be focus on the topic. After working hard for a while, give yourself a reason to stop and enjoy the view around you. Remember it is not only happy when you win the game, the process of it is also beautiful.
We have to bury ourselves into anything we enjoy. We also have to get balance between our life and our career. Of course, career is an important part of our life, but not the only one.
29th,Jan
We are all lazy, absolutely that is human nature. Give us a reason to be passion, to be confident and to be energetic to focus on what we are doing. When we achieve some goals, give us some rewards to push us again and bury us into another jobs. When we wanna find some excuses, tell us we should have five minutes get used to new surroundings and become a habit. If we are still lazy, just give ourselves a minute off and tell us that is a reward, that is human nature.
30th,Jan
Success comes from trial and error. We all know that no pain, no gain.
So when and why we stop and hesitate to try? When we are young, we always focus on what we are doing and what we wanna to do. If we fail, we just stand and continue to try again and again. Do you remember the moment you learn how to walk? What a lovely and energetic baby you are. You are happy when you struble, and just stand up with hands and legs with a smile. However, when we grow up, we realize we are not the center of the world. There are lots of people watching us. We can not fail. We always focus on others opinions but not our inner thoughts.
We reject to try just because we hate to fail. We have no courage to solve some difficult problem as we are shy and we have no confidence. How can you succeed the first time if you do not know it at all.
31st,Jan
If you want to make double of your successful rate, you have to make at least triple of your failure rate.
Remember, success is never an accident, and it comes from trial and error.
Besides that, learning is a happy thing but not a bitter one. We learn A and B that is the reason we gain experience. That is why we can grow up.
1st,Feb
POSITIVE PHYCHOLOGY
What is the reality? When we wanna do something, we just believe we can get the goal with hard work and we will make some bad decisions, after that we grow up.
Sometimes we have to be perfeclism. If you are doctor, or a driver. You can not make mistakes. However, there are lots of aspects in our lives. If you wanna get to B from A, there is not only one way. If you always wanna find the straight line from A to B, you will often be unhappy. Life is full of ups and downs.
When we pursuit something, we focus on the goal and that is right. Also, the surroundings and the journey is also important. Because what we have is here and now.
2nd,Jan
What we can control is that we work hard and focus on what we are doing. We can not know what will happen tomorrow. We can not change our IQ or other people's opinion of us.
What we can do is that we chase for our dream and focus on the task and the people in front of us. We can not fix all the problems behind us and also that is also meaningless.
If we are smart, that is good because we can spend less time and learn a lot. However, if we are not very intelligent, that is great because we have to work hard. We have no excuse to avoid hard work. If we are always lazy, we will not get improved. No pain, no gain.
Learn to fail and fail to learn.
3rd,Feb
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Just forget everything and give yourself any courage to try. Just like kindergarden.
4th,Feb
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THREE P's.
Permission. Positive. Perspective.
Give us a permission to be human. We can be unhappy and accept the truth that we will fail sometimes.
Be positive. Every coin has two sides. If you look positively, you will find something different and colorful.
Find a different perspective to make yourself colorful and what you are doing meaningful. Everyone is unique and can make this world a better place in his or her own way.
5th,Feb
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6th,Feb
Do not try to set many goals at the same time because you will fail almost 100 percent. We have to use self-discipine to fight against our nature and our habits. What we can do meaningfully is make what we wanna do eagerly a habit.
For example, almost everybody knows that doing exercise is good for health. Easier said than done. We have to go out to run, to do weight–lifting or swimming every day or several times a week. Make it a habit.
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7th,Feb
We all want to do something, but there are always someone can not get what they want.
There is a good way to help us focus on what we are doing named meditation. Walking meditation helps us try to focus on our movements, left, right and left. Sitting meditation gives us an opportunity focus on our breath. Just breath in, deeply, then breath out.
12th,Feb
LOVE.
How to keep on going with your soul mate and make the relationship better?
We always wanna get a wonderful lover that is impossible. We have to waste time to get in touch with him or her to know details, to know habits. We are not alone when we are in love, we have to think about our lover.
If we have some problems, or quarrels, only focus on the topic, not on your lovers. Solve it, and forget it. We can just sit down and ask for solutions, make both of us satisfied.
What is REALLY important is right here and right now. Do not hesitate to show your love. Make commitment from your heart.
Have same goals to persuit. Absolutely, we should time and space to improve ourselves. We should be a real person, a naked one when you face your soul mate. We should have some important things to think about, to fight for.
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