在activity里获取adapter的控件

listview.setOnItemClickListener(new AdapterView.OnItemClickListener() {

    @Override

    public void onItemClick(AdapterView<?> adapterView, View view, int i, long l) {

      ImageView image= (ImageView) list_receiverInfo.getChildAt(i).findViewById(R.id.icon_select);

        image.setImageResource(R.mipmap.selected);

    }

});