文 / 破岩
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贫穷和弱小不是博得别人同情的资本，唯有努力奋斗是最重要的。习近平主席曾说：“天上不会掉馅饼，努力奋斗才能梦想成真。” 还有，我们走对路了，就不怕遥远。最近自己老犯急躁，急于求成的毛病。自己只要想做给什么事情，就想着能不能速成，或者是有无捷径可走殊不知，捷径的尽头，必然是死路 。自己心里明白，凡事不能一暴十寒，而且冰冻三尺非一日之寒，可是当自己走不好的时候么久愈加着急，哪里还顾得上想方法论和指导思想呢。我是个保守主义者中的折衷主义者。你说让我去做，可是我往往能做一段时间，但是我是少数人的大部分人。不是少数人中的极少数人。因为自己只是比一般的人超前一点点，却落后真正的高手一大截。自己的毛病自己心知肚明，可是就是改不了。不知道自己真的是无法成为优秀人的行列吗？很多时候，我们的生活就是我们选择的结果。（We all make choices in life. The hard thing is to live with them. And there ain't nobody can help you with that.）今天看到了一段话，很有感触，如下：
我慢慢明白了我为什么不快乐，因为我总是期待一个结果。
看一本书期待它让我变深刻，
吃饭游泳期待它让我一斤斤瘦下来，
发一条短信期待它被回复，
对人好期待它回应也好，
写一个故事说一个心情期待它被关注被安慰，
参加一个活动期待换来充实丰富的经历。
这些预设的期待如果实现了，长舒一口气。
如果没实现昵？自怨自艾。
可是小时候也是同一个我，
用一个下午的时间看蚂蚁搬家，等石头开花，
小时候不期待结果，小时候哭笑都不打折。
一一一马德《允许自己虚度时光》
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还有一个令我特别喜欢的诗歌是关于时区的，以及人生对比的观点，特别喜欢，分享如下：
正如美国流传的一首小诗《New York is 3 hours ahead of California》所要表达的：每个人都有自己的发展区时，不会早也不会晚，属于你的终将会到来。
“纽约时间比加州时间早三个小时，
New York is 3 hours ahead of California,
但加州时间并没有变慢。
but it does not make California slow.
有人22岁就毕业了，
Someone graduated at the age of 22,
但等了五年才找到稳定的工作！
but waited 5 years before securing a good job!
有人25岁就当上CEO，
Someone became a CEO at 25,
却在50岁去世。
and died at 50.
也有人迟到50岁才当上CEO，
While another became a CEO at 50,
然后活到90岁。
and lived to 90 years.
有人单身，
Someone is still single,
同时也有人已婚。
while someone else got married.
奥巴马55岁就退休，
Obama retires at 55,
川普70岁才开始当总统。
but Trump starts at 70.
世上每个人本来就有自己的发展时区。
Absolutely everyone in this world works based on their Time Zone.
身边有些人看似走在你前面，
People around you might seem to go ahead of you,
也有人看似走在你后面。
some might seem to be behind you.
但其实每个人在自己的时区有自己的步程。
But everyone is running their own RACE, in their own TIME.
不用嫉妒或嘲笑他们。
Don’t envy them or mock them.
他们都在自己的时区里，你也是！
They are in their TIME ZONE, and you are in yours!
生命就是等待正确的行动时机。
Life is about waiting for the right moment to act.
所以，放轻松。
So, RELAX.
你没有落后。
You’re not LATE.
你没有领先。
You’re not EARLY.
在你自己的时区里，一切安排都准时。
You are very much ON TIME, and in your TIME ZONE.”
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就是前一段时间特别喜欢的一段演讲，别让别人打断自己的生活节奏。并不是每一件算得出来的事，都有意义；也不是每一件有意义的事，都能够被算出来。
"I know people who graduated college at 21, and didn't get a salary job until they were 27.
I know people who graduated at 25 and already had a salary job.
I know people who have children and are single.
I know people who are married and had to wait 8-10 years to be parents.
I know people who are in a relationship and love someone else.
I know people who love each other and aren't together.
There are people waiting to love and be loved.
My point is, everything in life happens according to our time, our clock.
You may look at your friends and some may seem to be ahead or behind you, but they're not.
They're living according to the pace of their clock, so be patient.
You're not falling behind, it's just not your time." - Julissa Loaiza
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