PERSONAL REVIWE FOR CHAPER 1

1.Q&A

DAY1

1.What does Charles Bukowski’s success try to prove? Charles Bukowski’s success try to prove that his simple ability to be completely, unflinchingly honest with himself—especially the worst parts of himself—and to share his failings without hesitation or doubt.

2. Conventional life advice only serves to remind us over and over again of what we are not, of what we lack, of what we should have been but failed to be.

3. I want to use the sentence to descript this part:“Pain is an inextricable thread in the fabric of life, and to tear it out is not only impossible, but destructive: attempting to tear it out unravels everything else with it.” 因为无法面对失败，而为失败感到难受，所以在这个失败的局面里进行恶心循环。而如果把失败当做生活的一部分，或许会有新的体会。

DAY2

1. Subtlety #1: Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different. Subtlety #2: To not give a fuck about adversity, you must first give a fuck about something more important than adversity. Subtlety #3: Whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing what to give a fuck about.

2. Everything is supposed to be just exactlythe fucking way you want it to be. This is a sickness. And it will eat you alive

2.Sharing

因为第一次做这种阅读，所以没有养成随时笔记的习惯，但这本书能够让我读下去，很大一部分是因为三观还是很符合的，所以分享一些自己觉得特别有感触的片段。

If pursuing the positive is a negative, then pursuing the negative generates the positive. 这句话的后面其实有很多的解释，和个人很highlight的点，是我自己本身遇到很多事情，特别是不好的事情，其实我会想着如何去逃避。但仔细想想那些痛苦，其实才造就了现在的自己。而这段解释可以很好的说服自己，痛苦本来就是生活的一部分，而且是主要的部分，快乐才是他的副产品，特别是对于还需要更多成长的我。

how to pick and choose what matters to you and what does not matter to you based on finely honed personal values. This is incredibly difficult. It takes a lifetime of practice and discipline to achieve. And you will regularly fail. But it is perhaps the most worthy struggle one can undertake in one’s life. It is perhaps the only struggle in one’s life 这段话表达的其实是说人生最大的一个挣扎，就是不断的探索知道自己想要的是什么，自己真正想在乎的东西，而在这一路上其实会有很多的失败。看了这段话我想到的是见识，缺少该有的经历，没有应有的见识，所以才不知道自己想要什么。讲真的，这就好像在劝说我，应该做一个决定了，然后这个决定会有很多的痛苦，可是这个痛苦会给我带来更大的快乐，更多的见识和世界。 总的来说觉得书的三观和自己经历了一些事情后，的一些想法很相似。

其实我的母亲就是一个很多事情需要追求完美的人，所以现在有了焦虑症，真希望这本书有英文版本的！

3.Words

1.berate 痛斥;严厉责备

An elderly lady screams at the cashier,berating him for not accepting her thirty-cent coupon.

Example：Nowadays,more and more parents in china berate their children for not achieving a good performance in school for the reason that they give a fuck about the embarrassing talking about children’s performance in school between their friends

2.The way he defends his cash register’s purity the way knights used to defend maidens’ virginity

这里的the way 应该是相当于我们的比喻句。 He dealt with this problem calmly the way he enjoys his breakfast everyday .

3.The first-world problem

We joke online about “first-world problems,” but we really have become victims of our own success.

4.Genuine：真正的; 坦率的

It is a long with for us to learn about what kind of genuine things we want to give a fuck about。