你有没有过这样的经历，在接下一件重要任务时，在尝试一件风险十足的新事物时，对未来发展的希望和成功感到无限渺茫，一切都做最坏的打算。
可你又不甘心，不甘心哪怕是多微缈的光亮，只要还有一丝可能，就要尝试，不顾一切去努力。
而最后，其实往往，你会成功。真正拼尽全力而失败的，也不遗憾，因为那其实已经比最坏的打算，优秀了无数个档次。
在看到韩雪的TED演讲之前，我并不知道，真的有积极的悲观主义者这个解释。但我很荣幸在中学时，就感悟到了这个心理特性。并且，在大大小小的自我介绍中，我都会告诉别人，我是个乐观的，悲观主义者。我为自己发现并精辟地总结出这个词，而欣喜不已。但我确实，与韩雪介绍的，不谋而合。
在我中考填报志愿的那年，我有两个选择，一是去县里的一中，二是去市里的中学。市中学比县里的教学水平高出N多，可县里的中学可以进奥赛班，市里的中学不一定能进，但是如果志愿报了市里的中学被落选，我就不能回县里上，只有复读一年。
但我还是选择了市里的高中，因为我权衡的是，如果我落选了，复读一年，我不过是比同年级人多读一遍书，年龄也未必比他们大，大不了就是没面子，丢一年的面子，这是最坏的结果。可如果我成功了呢？我就可以接受更好的教育和学习环境。事实上，当年的选择，让我收益颇多。
我习惯把最坏的结果都拿出来摆在桌面上，问问自己，你可不可以接受。然后我会发现，最坏的结果也不过如此，就大可以放手一搏，勇敢尝试。
到了高中，每一次大考小考，对我来说都是一次作战。看着自己的排名起起落落，落了又落，常常怀疑自己，到底有没有能力参加高考！可我在真正面临高考的时候，又自动恢复了我大脑的调节能力。我问自己，如果真的高考考砸了，会怎么样？
不过是会上不了一本，再不然上不了本科，上不了本科还有专升本的机会，再不然就是去技校，总之我肯吃苦不怕累够勤奋，不会饿死；我脸皮不够厚，但抵御闲话的能力还是有一些，也不怕别人喷我骂我不好好学习。总之，我觉得最差的结果，也就这些了。
然后我就放心去考试了，啥也没想，反正无论如何我将来都能混口饭吃，何必忧虑。
但其实，高考是我三年发挥最好的一次，从班前二十一跃成为班里第四。
所以你看，悲观也是分层次的。有人悲观，却让自己变得更好；有人悲观，却让自己一蹶不振。凡事都有两面性，只看你怎么选择。
在此，分享一下韩雪在TEDxsuzhou上的英文演讲稿。大家如果有兴趣，可以去网上搜一下这个演讲视频，现场效果很棒。
Being a Positive Pessimist
Good afternoon everyone.
First let me share a piece of music with you.I know it's terrible, because I played.And i'm sorry it's not the worst one.I still got something to show you.Don't laught, it's an entire story.If you really want to understand what it is talking about？You can check my weibo later.This picture I painted last year.I have another one to show you, this is much better.This picture I painted, twenty years ago.
So I know you might have a question.How it is getting worse?And I also understand that most of your conclusion must be:out of imagination.
But how it happened.I think it is because I become an adult.Since we became adults.We started being afraid of making mistakes.We choose to be the best or nothing. So, we do not dare to try any mistakes.It seems that we trapped ourselves in the overprotective world.I sense them we started to lose a lot of, ability, like imagination, and creativity.
What is the strategy? For me I have a special one.It's been a positive, pessimistic.Let me explain the concept first.To be a pessimist means, you get low, expectation to yourself.And you prepared to lose.And what about being positive.It is easy to understand the means you make best effort on, a reason.But if you combine this concept together.It seems that a paradox.Yes I think so, but I hope so think it is the way the world is it born to be.
And it really works in the reality.We can always find something around us.They have totally opposite sizes two sides.And they combined together, and, work well together.
So how to be a positive, pessimist.Let me share some experience with you.I know i'm not old enough to tell stories.By these stories really meant to me.
The first one back to 2012,It's the first time I become a tv series producer.But as you know.I am, on the actress and singer.Work as a producer was totally unfamiliar for me.So you remember first I have to be, to pessimist.So I had to imagine, what will be the worst, consequence.I think that was the result must be no one, would buy it.And I will lose both, time and money.And the whole investment equal to the, revenue, I earned by, acting for the past few years.
And what about the whole market.You know in China, only 20% of the tv series, can finally, saddam, brown broadcast on tv.What about the rest 80%？In the past, they just change into, a pipe or of tapes.And now even worse, we just only datas left.
So I asked myself several times ,Can you really accept the worst, consequences?I think yes, at least, I could try, so I started shooting.Remember, next step, I have to be positive.Because I am a huge digital fan,I decided to use some high technique to my tv series.So I focused on 4k resolution.What 4k is?
Let me explain.Usually, you see a film on the screen in the movie theater the size is 2k.What 4k means is four times larger than 2k.And also means 50mb per frame.You might still be a little bit confused.It's okay don't worry, you just have to remember, it was a Huge obstacle.
In front of all the tv series a group in china.Because before us, only a few groups try to 4k Resolution.They input 4k, but no one really tried to output 4k productions.Because it was really hard.
Only director zhang yimou was trying in his film, Coming Home, for the first time.And when we finished the shooting work when we entered The post production work,the real nightmare came.I still remember we want to output a five-minute trail for beijing tv festival.But after a whole day's working until the computer crashed, we just got 50 seconds trails.
I was crazy, what can I do ?This is a 30 episodes tv series.I just got 50 seconds, so I asked Our counselor, because at that time,our technical support was RED,Which is the biggest Digital camera Company, in america.Their feedback was, they use Hp base station in america.But we didn't have any hp base station in china.it was too expensive, we can not even afford that.
So we decided to assemble out black apple and we tried the outcome mode from dozens of combinations.After six months work we succeed.My tv series the ladies, Became the first tv series Which output real 4k a resolution production.And I succeeded in selling it And with a very good performance, on tv.
So after this experience,I learned, don't be afraid to take a huge challenges.You can prepared to lose, but conquer it with grit.
The next story happened last year,I took an invitation from BEAR GRYLLS is there anyone know that? If you know that you might thought I was crazy.
Yes, this man who stands on the top of the food chain.He almost eat everything.You might think I was crazy, yeah before that I did not, physical activities, I have very bad body condition.I was afraid of a lot of things, I was afraid of height and insects.I didn't even dare to take a roller coaster.
But I almost took this invitation immediately.Because I truly understand if I lost this chance.I would never earn it back in the rest of my life.So I decided to take the adventure.During the twenty days adventure, I caught rats,i caught mice, I ate insects.But I didn't drink the urine.
And I almost cried every day in the first half journey.And the most impressive moment, was the day before the last day.I still remember that day, our mission was to across a canyon just through a rope hanging between two cliffs.You can see from the picture, but you can't see the width it's very long.And, the, standard posture is leaning your whole body on to the rope.And use one of your legs backside to hookup the rope with the ankle.I'm pull yourself from side to the other.
When it was my turn, BEAR said,Cecilia, are you really sure you want to try that?If you want to quit you can quit now because I know you can't make balance.You can't use your left arm.Because I was not lucky before that mission, about two days ago.
I hurt my left arm, my nerves system got injured.And my little finger kept shaking for a whole day, I can't even control that.I barely can not use my left arm.So as a pessimist I have to imagine the worst consequence.Because, it was a reality show.You know, reality show is very dangerous if you can't perform 100% well.Sometimes it means you will face savage criticism on line later.And I might fall down again, or I hurt my right arm as well.
So I have been thinking about, should I really have to try that?I think at least I won't die.So what?I decided to take that mission.But I really lean my body onto that rope.It was far more, scary than I thought.You can see from the picture because my posture as My team member said my posture was so ugly.Because she said I was just like dead caterpillar hanging there.
I just kept my half body on one side, I left the rest part on the other side.And it was not the worst one.The worst was because my arm could not hold my upper body and my head.So I could not face up I could not see the end.
So what could I do?I know that I have to think positive, I also know that sometimes been positive doesn't mean you just speak out some propagandas.You have to do something for real.But at that moment, the only thing I could see was a rock just three meters ahead nothing else.
So I decided to set small targets, so I focus on that rock.There is something magical happens, when I really concentrated to that rock.I forgot about the height, I forgot about keeping balance.I even forget about the end.I just remembered to focus on that, and pull myself.
Then I started seeking more tigers in front of me.And any tiny objects, became, glittering image in front of me.After child several times, I realized that I was so close to the end.And finally, I succeed.
So after that experience, I learned there is no shame to be a loser.You just need to set small targets, and devote yourself. So these stories which happened to me, shaped me either positive pessimist.
And until today I know that I am still a bad piano player,a bad painter.And not a very successful producer.But I love to be a positive pessimist.And I know nothing can stop me being better.
Thank you.
其实，如韩雪演讲中所说，
“不要去害怕接受巨大的挑战，
你可以做好失败的心理准备，但是靠毅力去征服它。”
无论是在和贝尔冒险的过程中，还是在担任首部4K输出的电视剧制作人中，她也是在看待事情时，先去考虑，最坏的结果是什么，然后，不顾一切，去尝试和努力。
韩雪表示自己进行非母语演讲也是如此，
准备的时候很紧张，但是做好了各种出洋相的准备并全力以赴。
确实，最后韩雪呈现给观众们的效果很出众。
也许，你也可以尝试这种方法，来思考人生。
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