基于第一个原则：Map is not the territory 地图不是地域
(只有经由感官经验所塑造出来的世界,而没有绝对真实的世界)
1. 尊重别人的内心世界
Respect other people's model of the world.
2. 没有失败，只有回馈
There is no failure, only feedback.
3. 凡事至少有三个解决方法
There are at least 3 solutions to a situation.
4. 别人做得到，我也做得到
If it is possible for the world, it is possible for me.
5.每个人在既有的资源下，每刻已做出自己最好的选择
People make the best choice they perceive available at that time.
6.无难相处的人，只有不善变通的沟通者；（抗拒只是欠缺亲和力的信息）
There is no resistant clients,only inflexible communicator;(Resistance of clients is a sign of a lack of rapport)
7.人的行为并非等同于他个人的本质；(接受他的个人，改变他的行为)
People are not their behaviour.(Accept the person, change the behavior)
8.所有人都拥有足够的资源去成功地达成自己的理想及目标
（没有无资源的人，资源缺乏资源的状态）
People have all the resources they need to succeed and to achieve their desired outcomes.
（There are no unresourceful people, only unresourceful states)
基于第二个原则：Life and Mind are systemic processes.
身、心是属于同一个系统
1.必须以是否符合环境及整体平衡去评估行为及转变是否恰当
Behavior and change are to be evaluated in terms of context and ecology.
2.人不可能不沟通
People cannot not communicate.
3.沟通的意义在于你得到的回应
The meaning of communication is the response you get.
4.意之所在，能量随来
Energy flows where attention goes.
5. 弹性规条：在任何系统内，最灵活的人拥有最佳的成功机会，是最能影响大局的人
The law of requisite variety:the system/person with the most flexibility of the behaviour will control the system;
6.每个行为背后都有其正面意向
Every behaviour has a positive intention.
7. 若要求知，必须行动
If you want to understand, ACT!
8.重复目前的行为，只会得到目前的结果。如果现行的方法无效，就要改用其他方法。
Repeating your current action will get you the same end results,if the current method is ineffective, change it.
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