Habits

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From Darren LaCroix（头马演讲比赛世界冠军)

•Training is doing what you can’t do today

•Conscious mind (know) vs master subconscious mind (Habits)

•Habits are like rail road tracks, they take a long time to put in place, but once you do,  they will take you anywhere you want to go. – Patricia Fripp

•Compare with the beginner – (thought-habit- result)

Four habits

1.Never turn down the stage time

2.Record yourself every time

3.Be confident enough to be humble

4.Crave for feedback

•What’s the most important part of a presentation is the thought process in the listener’s mind.

The four commonalities of world Champions

1. Have a coach (relates to habits 3&4)

2. Pause, let audience to reflect

3. The champions weren’t be perfect. The audience doesn’t want you to be perfect, be present.

4. They all had a struggle. Bring the audience to the moment! Skill set without mindset will make audience upset.

•Every speaker can become world-class.

Mastery = effort *(direction+correction)

•You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.

•Experts question what they know.  Champions think differently.

•You are the CEO of your life.

•Masterpiece = master the piece

The core four

1. Create and structure content

2. Stories that stick

3. Make them laugh

4. Own the stage (style and delivery)

Get The Right You Me Speaking Ratio

Have you ever wondered why some people have the power to galvanise you into action? What these people get right is their use of the You Me Speaking Ratio when they communicate.

Excessive use of “I” and “me” turns listeners off quick-smart.  I love the joke about the actress who says: “Enough about me! Let’s talk about you! What do you think of my latest movie?”!!!

One of the fastest ways to lose an audience (or the attention of your friends and colleagues) is to talk mostly about yourself and from your perspective.

Get The Ratio Right

According to my research, a language ratio of 10:1 of You:Me is about the right ratio to generate a balanced and inclusive speech. It leads to greater engagement and even ownership of your ideas because the speaker shows how their idea will work for you.

Examples of me-centred language: “I”, “me”, “my”, “mine”.

Examples of you-centred language: “you”, “us”, them”, “they”, “we”, “our”… “together”, “community”.

Examine the difference for yourself in the next 2 short examples by noticing how you feel when you read them or even better, say them out loud:

Me-Centred “I consider it imperative to make my health my number one priority. All the money in the world will not make me happy if I’m sick. My workshop today will show you how I did it, so you can too. I believe that health equals happiness.”

You-Centred “All the money in the world will not make you happy if you are sick. We all have so many competing priorities and other people to attend to. This workshop will show you how to clear the clutter of your busy life and how to make your health and you, your number one imperative. Your health equals your happiness.”

A Famous Example Of A “You-Centred” Speech

In 1961, American President John Kennedy’s inaugural speech “…ask not what your country can do for you – ask what you can do for your country,” uses “me-centred” words only 4 times and uses ‘you-centred” words 50 times. (Now that’s an interesting contrast with the “me-me-centred” speeches given by one of Australia’s most recent Prime Ministers.) So do not let the 10:1 ratio trip you up. It’s not a rule, just a guideline to be aware of if you want to inspire, engage and build trust and an affirmative response from your listeners.

How To Connect And Inspire When You Speak

Take a look at anything you’ve recently written, especially if it’s a “speech” type nature or a self-intro. Identify the proportion of “you” versus “me” centred words. Emphasize “we” and “us” to keep the spotlight on your listeners or audience. Remember, it’s not about you, it is about them. A speaker or leader is just a temporary conduit of information to help others understand.

Rewrite your speech or report and make it “you-centred” with a language ratio of at least 10:1 “you’s” and “we’s” to “I’s” and “me’s.” Notice and enjoy the difference in reaction.

Whenever anyone speaks, it is to benefit others, right? If not, you are just talking to yourself. And we all know the special terms for that!

If you’ve ever felt you’ve missed the mark when you speak and your friends, colleagues or an audience seem to switch off and aren’t interested in your ideas, examine your You Me Speaking Ratio.

Once adjusted to “you-centred” language, you may now become the communicator you’ve always longed to be.