镜面效应——请微笑

镜面效应——请微笑

　　

中文版：

　　

　　“镜像效应”——你怎样对待这个世界，这个世界也会怎样对待你。

　　

　　　刚来到深圳旅游的小马，想到当地一家服装店选购服装。本来心情很好，但一出服装店却一脸愁容，就像泄了气的皮球一样。为什么会出现这种这种情况呢？购物的过程是这样的：

　　在他兴致勃勃地来到服装店时，却发现个个服务员脸上都无精打采。想问一下某款服装的价格、问还有没有便宜点的，但却受到服务员有气无力的回答：“没有，你自己看”、“不知道。”结果，小马沮丧地离开了那家服装店，并破口大骂了一句：“我他妈再也不来这破店了！

　　再看另一则事例：

　　鸿奇是一家公司的董事长。但是最近股市大跌，公司景气不好，鸿奇对此绞尽脑汁，甚至还患上了焦虑症。

　　有一天，他偶然来到一家餐厅，心想：这餐厅以前也没见过，就去里面吃一顿吧。刚踏进这家餐厅的大门，耳边便响起一阵清新美妙的音乐，只见一位女服务员走过来，脸上带着微笑说：“先生，欢迎光临！请问你想要点什么吗？我们这里有最近很受欢迎的三文鱼......”鸿奇怔住了，在这漫长的岁月里，他整天忙于事务，还从没见过这么温柔的微笑，享受到这么温馨的服务。过了一会儿，他说：“就给我来份牛排吧。”那位服务员微笑着说：“好的，请稍等！”

　　整个晚餐，鸿奇都过得很愉快——享受着美味的食物，沉浸在美妙的音乐中，还有这里让人感到如亲人般的服务；这一切都使他心旷神怡，他感到生活又充满希望。渐渐地，他的焦虑症竟然被消除了。

　　看到这两则事例，你就“对人的认识”方面有什么启发呢？我想你会说：“人是如此情绪化的动物。”

　　

　　举个简单的例子：假如在某个时刻你照着镜子，却发现镜中的自己面容憔悴、衣衫褴褛、毫无生气。如果你不是选择积极调整，而是接受来自“毫无生气”、“否定自我”的消极刺激，那么你就真的陷入“毫无生气”的状态中——走路摇摇摆摆，见到熟人也因缺乏自信而不敢打招呼。

　　同样，如果你看到你的朋友（或其他人）板着脸，或者以一种很可怕的表情瞪着你，你会怎样？就先抛开关于“我会马上去安慰他”、“我会冷静分析对待”之类的回答来说吧，我想百分之九十以上的人会选择逃跑，或是自己的心情也被感染，变成消极的摸样。

　　这就是“镜像效应”——你怎样对待这个世界，这个世界也会怎样对待你。

　　得到了这条结论，我们不妨把对待事物的思维由“感性”升华到“理性”：遇到使自己产生负面情绪的事物，与其带着满面愁容去面对接下来的事物，不如暂时将情绪藏住，改变态度，以微笑面对这个世界。

　　坏情绪很容易被感染，但没有人会选择对一个面带微笑的人大发雷霆。

　　改变态度是防止“情绪瘟疫”的最佳良药，是扭转未来、改变命运的关键所在。

　　

　

英文版：

　　

　　"Mirror effect" - how do you treat the world, the world will be how to treat you.

　

　　Just come to shenzhen tourism pony, thought of a local clothing store to buy clothes.

Was in a good mood, but a clothing store is a face of sad, just like drain the gas of the ball.

Why will appear this kind of this situation?

The process of shopping is like this:

When he cheerfully came to the clothing store, only to find that all the attendant listless on their faces.

Want to ask the price of a garment, ask is there any cheaper, but faint from the waiter replied: "no, you see", "I don't know."

As a result, the pony sadly left the boutique, and shouted 1: "I break his mother stopped coming to the shop!

Take a look at another example:

Hon, chairman of the company.

But the recent stock market crash, the company's business is bad, hong qi are racking their brains, even suffer from anxiety.

One day, he accidentally came to a restaurant, thought: this restaurant has never seen before, go and eat inside.

Just step into the restaurant door, the ear broke into a pure and fresh and beautiful music, see a waitress came over and a smile on her face said: "Sir, welcome!

What do you want?

We have recently popular salmon here...

"Hong qi shocked, in the long years, he is busy all day, also have never seen such a tender smile, to enjoy such a warm service.

After a while, he said, "give me a steak."

The waitress said with a smile: "ok, please wait a moment!"

The whole dinner, hon, all had a good time, enjoy delicious food, immersed in the beautiful music, and this makes people feel like family services;

All this makes him even more, he was living and full of hope.

Gradually, his anxiety disorders should be eliminated.

See these two examples, you on the understanding of people what inspire?

I guess you could say: "people are so emotional animal."

　A simple example: if at some point you look into a mirror, only to find myself in the mirror haggard, ragged and lifeless.

If you not choose positive adjustment, but from "lifeless" and "no ego" negative stimulation, then you are really into a state of "lifeless" shaky - walk, see acquaintances also dare not say "hello" due to a lack of confidence.

Also, if you see your friend (or others) with a straight face, or by a terrible expression stare at you, what would you do?

Despite what about "I'll go to comfort him," I'll calm analysis to "answer, for example, I want to more than ninety percent of people will choose to escape, or his own mood also is infected, become negative.

This is called the "mirror effect" - how do you treat the world, the world will be how to treat you.

Got this article conclusion, we might as well put things thinking to the "rational" by "emotional" sublimation: meet to produce negative emotions, rather than with a sadly to the next thing, be inferior to temporarily hide emotional lives, change your attitude, to face the world with a smile.

Bad mood easily infected, but no one would choose for a smiling send thunder of the National People's Congress.

Change your attitude is the best medicine, to prevent the "emotion" plague is the key to reverse in the future, change destiny.