Commander

在我们平时的工作和生活中，是不是有这一类人，遇到需要做决策的时候，总是坚定地给出自己的态度，好像事事都是一个“指挥官”？他们往往也能自然而然地成为一个团队或者一个团体里面的核心人物。这类人群喜欢做出决断，处理事情干净利落，有时甚至会将自己的观点强加于人。

大家可能一方面反感他们的强势；但是同时又不由自主地被他们的强势所吸引，听从他们的指挥。他们就像一个发号命令的“指挥官”（commander），永远能够让一个团队按照自己的思路去实现既定的目标。

本节课 Q 老师将带大家描述这类具有指挥天赋的人的特点，并给出如何与这类人打交道的建议。

页面下方的文本挖空和词句总结图片可供大家课后参考复习。

COMMAND

Command leads you to take charge(掌舵).  Unlike some people, you feel no discomfort with (强加于人) imposing your views on others.  On the contrary, once your opinion is formed, you need to share it with others.  Once your goal is set, you feel restless (寝食难安)until you have aligned others with you. (保持一致)

You are not frightened by confrontation; rather, you know that confrontation is the first step toward resolution.  Whereas others may avoid facing up to life's unpleasantness, you feel compelled to (本能觉得不得不)present the facts or the truth, no matter how unpleasant it may be. 

You need things to be clear between people and challenge them to be clear-eyed (明辨是非)and honest. (开诚布公)

You push them to take risks. You may even intimidate(威吓到) them.  And while some may resent this, labeling you opinionated(刚愎自用), they often willingly hand you the reins.  People are drawn(吸引) toward those who take a stance持有坚定的立场。 and ask them to move in a certain direction.  Therefore, people will be drawn to you.  You have presence. You have Command.

How to manage a person strong in command?

- When you need to jar a project loose and get things moving again or when people need to be persuaded, ask this person to take charge.

- Always ask him for evaluations of what is happening in your organization. He is most likely to give you a straight answer.

- As much as you can, give him the room to lead and make decisions.

- Never threaten him unless you are 100 percent ready to follow through.

This person may intimidate others with his up-front, assertive style. You may need to weigh 权衡whether or not the contribution of this person who makes things happen justifies the occasional ruffled feather暴脾气.

▍生词好句

1. 表示“掌控，掌舵，负责，主持大局”：take charge

2. 表示“强迫别人接受自己的观点”：impose your views on others

3. 表示“观点的形成”：opinion is formed / form an opinion

4. 表示“目标的确立”：goal is set / set a goal

5. 表示“让大家保持一致”: align someone with = get someone in line with

保持一致的那个标杆和对象，就是 with 后面的那个人

6. 表示“直面生活的不快”: face up to life's unpleasantness

7. 表示“不得不陈述事实和真相”: feel compelled to present the facts or the truth

8. 表示“无论这个真相，让人多么的不爽”：no matter how unpleasant they might be

9. 表示“人们之间没有误会”：be clear between people

10. 表示“不由自主地交出掌控权”：willingly hand you the reins

11. 表示“被立场鲜明的人所吸引”：be drawn toward those who take a stance

12. 表示“要撼动、震动某件可能已经固化了的事情”：jar sth loose

13. 表示“给他空间，让他来领导”：give him the room to lead

14. 表示“说到做到，完全有把握去做”： you are 100 percent ready to follow through

15. 表示“毫不掩饰的，很武断的风格”：up-front, assertive style

16. 表示“你需要权衡”：you need to weigh

▍重点词汇

take charge:  掌管；掌控

impose one's views on others:  把观点强加给别人

on the contrary:  刚好相反

align someone with ... : 使结盟；使一致

confrontation:  n. 对立；冲突

face up to:  勇敢面对

feel compelled to:  不得不

clear-eyed:  adj. 头脑清晰的；有洞察力的；明辨是非的

opinionated:  adj. 固执己见的；刚愎自用

hand sb the reins:  让某人掌舵

be drawn toward:  被……所吸引

take a stance:  站定立场；有立场；立场鲜明

presence:  n. 气场强大；存在感强

jar a project loose:  重启一个项目（震动、撬动）

follow through:  说到做到

up-front:  adj. / n.  坦率( 的 )

assertive: adj. 独断的；坚定而自信的

weigh: vt. 考虑；权衡

ruffled feather:  怒发冲冠

▍补充例句

1. Please! Stop imposing your ideas on me!

2. They need to align others with them on the goal.

3. When you join a team, you may want to align yourself with other team members.

4. When you join a team, you may want to get in line with other team members.

5. Achievers feel compelled to accomplish a lot of things by the end of the day.

6. Let's get clear here.

7. I am a little bit intimidated by him.

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