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ONE of the biggest complaints in modern society is being overscheduled, overcommitted and overextended.Ask people at a social gathering how they are and the stock answer is “super busy,” “crazy busy” or “insanely busy.” Nobody is just “fine” anymore.
When people aren’t super busy at work, they are crazy busy exercising, entertaining or taking their kids to Chinese lessons. Or maybe they are insanely busy playing fantasy football,tracing theirgenealogyorchurningtheir own butter.
And if there is ever a still moment forreflectivethought — say, while waiting in line at thegrocery storeor sitting in traffic — out comes the mobile device.So it’s worth noting a study published lastmonth in thejournalScience, which shows how far people will go to avoidintrospection.
“We had noted how wedded to our devices we all seem to be and that people seem to find any excuse they can to keep busy,” said Timothy Wilson, a psychology professor at the University of Virginia and lead author of the study.“No one had done a simple study letting people go off on their own and think.”
The results surprised him and have created astirin the psychology and neuroscience communities. In 11 experiments involving more than 700 people, the majority of participants reportedthattheyfound it unpleasant to be alone in a room with their thoughts for just 6 to 15 minutes.
Moreover, in one experiment, 64 percent of men and 15 percent of women began self-administering electric shocks when left alone to think. These same people, by the way, had previouslysaidtheywould pay money to avoid receiving the painful jolt.
It didn’t matter if the subjects engaged in thecontemplativeexercise at home or in the laboratory, or if they were given suggestions of what to think about, like a coming vacation;they just didn’tlike being in their own heads.
It could be because human beings, when left alone, tend todwell onwhat’s wrong in their lives. We haveevolved tobecome problem solvers and meaning makers. What preys on our minds, when we aren’t updating our Facebook page or in spinning class, are the things we haven’t figured out — difficult relationships, personal and professional failures, money trouble, health concerns and so on. And until there is resolution, or at least some kind of understanding or acceptance, these thoughtsreverberatein our heads. Hellorumination. Helloinsomnia.
“One explanation why people keep themselves so busy and would rather shock themselves is that they are trying to avoid that kind of negative stuff,” said Ethan Kross, director of the Emotion andSelf-Control Laboratory at the University of Michigan. “It doesn’t feel good if you’re notintrinsicallygood atreflecting.”
ThecomedianLouis C.K. has ariffthat’s been watched nearly eight million times on YouTube in which he describes that not-good feeling. “Sometimes when things clear away and you’re notwatching anything and you’re in your car and you start going, oh no, here it comes, that I’m alone, and it starts to visit on you, just this sadness,” he said. “And that’s why we text and drive.Peoplearewilling to risk taking a life and ruining their own because they don’t want to be alone for a second because it’s so hard.”
But you can’t solve or let go of problems if you don’t allow yourself time to think about them.It’s animperativeignored by our culture, which values doing more than thinking and believesanswersarein thepalmof your hand rather than in your own head.
“It’s like we’re all in this addicted family where all this busyness seems normal when it’s really harmful,” said Stephanie Brown, a psychologist in Silicon Valley and the author of “Speed: Facing OurAddiction to Fast and Faster — and Overcoming Our Fear of Slowing Down.” “There’s this widespread belief that thinking and feeling will only slow you down and get in your way, but it’stheopposite.”
Suppressingnegative feelings only gives them more power, she said, leading tointrusivethoughts, which makes people get even busier to keep them at bay.The constant cognitive strain ofevadingemotions underlies a range of psychological troubles such asobsessive-compulsivedisorder, anxiety, depression and panic attacks, not to mention a range of addictions.It is also associated with varioussomaticproblems likeeczema,irritable bowel syndrome, asthma, inflammation, impaired immunity and headaches.
Studies further suggest that not giving yourself time to reflectimpairsyour ability toempathizewith others. “The more in touch with my own feelings and experiences, the richer and moreaccuratearemy guesses of whatpasses throughanother person’s mind,” said Giancarlo Dimaggio, apsychiatristwith the Center forMetacognitiveInterpersonalTherapy in Rome, who studies theinterplayof self-reflection andempathy. “Feeling what you feel is an ability thatatrophiesif you don’t use it.”
Researchers have also found that an idle mind is acrucibleof creativity. A number of studies have shown that people tend tocome up withmorenovel usesfor objects if they are first given an easy task that allows their minds towander, rather than a more demanding one.
“Idle mental processing encourages creativity and solutions because imagining your problem when you aren’t in it is not the same as reality,” said Jonathan Smallwood, a cognitive neuroscientist at the University of York, in England. “Using your imagination means you are in fact rethinking the problem in a novel way.”
Perhaps that’s why Google offers its employees courses called “Search Inside Yourself” and “Neural Self-Hacking,”which include instruction onmindfulnessmeditation, where the goal is to recognize and accept inner thoughts and feelings rather than ignore orrepressthem. It’s in the company’s interest because it frees up employees’otherwiseembattledbrain space tointuitendusers’ desires and create products to satisfy them.
“I have a lot of people who come in and want to learn meditation toshut outthoughts that come up in those quiet moments,” said Sarah Griesemer, a psychologist in Austin, Tex., whoincorporatesmindfulness meditation into her practice. “But allowing and tolerating thedriftingin of thoughts is part of the process.” Her patients, mostly hard-charging professionals, report being more productive at work and more energetic and engaged parents.
To get rid of the emotional static, experts advise not using first-person pronouns when thinking about troubling events in your life. Instead, use third-person pronouns or your own name when thinking about yourself.“If a friend comes to you with a problem it’s easy tocoachthem through it, but if the problem is happening to us we have real difficulty, in part because we have all the see go centric biases making it hard to reason rationally,” said Dr. Kross of Michigan. “The data clearly shows that you can use language to almost trick yourself into thinking your problems are happening to someone else.”
Hard as they sometimes are, negative feelings are a part of everyone’s life,arguablymore so if you are crazy busy.But it’s those same deep and troubling feelings, and how you deal with them, that make you the person you are. While busyness maystanchwelling sadness, it may also limit your ability to be overcome with joy.
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理解：
大意： 现代社会大家都觉得很忙，被各种生活，社交给拖累，而实际是人们通常害怕孤独，所以需要时刻让自己忙起来，避免独处带来的恐怖，痛苦。但是研究发现，其实这并不能解决问题，包括很多大公司，包括google让自己的员工来使用
坐享从第三人视来从新认识自己，思考问题，研发发现，这些践行者发现自己的工作效率，生活开始变得越来越好。
总之，负面情绪，想法是我们生活的一部分，如果你不正视它，它只会让你越来越忙，越来困扰你的生活。关键看你们怎么处理他们。至于怎么处理文章给出了解决方案 - 坐享。
好句子：
ONE of the biggest complaints in modern society is being overscheduled, overcommitted and overextended.
No one had done a simple study letting people go off on their own and think.”
One explanation why people keep themselves so busy and would rather shock themselves is that they are trying to avoid that kind of negative stuff
It doesn’t feel good if you’re notintrinsicallygood atreflecting
But you can’t solve or let go of problems if you don’t allow yourself time to think about them.
There’s this widespread belief that thinking and feeling will only slow you down and get in your way, but it’sthe opposite.
Idle mental processing encourages creativity and solutions because imagining your problem when you aren’t in it is not the same as reality,
Using your imagination means you are in fact rethinking the problem in a novel way
Perhaps that’s why Google offers its employees courses called “Search Inside Yourself” and “Neural Self-Hacking,”which include instruction onmindfulnessmeditation, where the goal is to recognize and accept inner thoughts and feelings rather than ignore orrepressthem.
To get rid of the emotional static, experts advise not using first-person pronouns when thinking about troubling events in your life. Instead, use third-person pronouns or your own name when thinking about yourself.
Hard as they sometimes are, negative feelings are a part of everyone’s life,arguablymore so if you are crazy busy.
阅读时间： 6：15 - 6:43 28m
理解：
大意： 现代社会大家都觉得很忙，被各种生活，社交给拖累，而实际是人们通常害怕孤独，所以需要时刻让自己忙起来，避免独处带来的恐怖，痛苦。但是研究发现，其实这并不能解决问题，包括很多大公司，包括google让自己的员工来使用
坐享从第三人视来从新认识自己，思考问题，研发发现，这些践行者发现自己的工作效率，生活开始变得越来越好。
总之，负面情绪，想法是我们生活的一部分，如果你不正视它，它只会让你越来越忙，越来困扰你的生活。关键看你们怎么处理他们。至于怎么处理文章给出了解决方案 - 坐享。
好句子：
ONE of the biggest complaints in modern society is being over scheduled, over committed/ kəˈmɪtɪd/and over extended.
committed/ kəˈmɪtɪd/承诺；委托；干坏事
No one had done a simple study letting people go off on their own and think.”
go off
离开；进行；变质；睡去；断掉；爆炸
One explanation/ˌɛksplə’neʃən/why people keep themselves so busy and would rather shock/ʃɑk/themselves is that they are trying to avoid that kind of negative/'nɛɡətɪv/stuff
It doesn’t feel good if you’re notintrinsically/ɪnˈtrɪnsɪk l..ɪ/good atreflecting
intrinsically/ɪnˈtrɪnsɪk l..ɪ/
adv. 本质地；内在地；固有地
But you can’t solve or let go off problems if you don’t allow yourself time to think about them.
There’s this widespread/'waɪdsprɛd/belief that thinking and feeling will only slow you down and get in your way, but it’sthe opposite./'ɒpəzɪt/
widespread/'waɪdsprɛd/
adj. 普遍的，广泛的；分布广的
get in your way 阻碍
Idle mental processing encourages creativity[,kriei'tiviti]and solutions because imagining your problem when you aren’t in it is not the same as reality/rɪ'æləti/,
Using your imagination means you are in fact rethinking the problem in a novel/'nɑvl/way
adj. 新奇的；异常的
n. 小说
Perhaps that’s why Google offers its employees courses called “Search Inside Yourself” and “Neural Self-Hacking,”which include instruction onmindfulness[‘maindfulnis]meditation/ˌmɛdɪ'teʃən/, where the goal is to recognize and accept inner thoughts and feelings rather than ignore orrepress/rɪ'prɛs/them.
mindfulness[‘maindfulnis]
n. 留心，警觉
meditation/ˌmɛdɪ'teʃən/
冥想；沉思，深思
repress/rɪ'prɛs/
vt. 抑制；镇压（叛乱等）；约束
To get rid of the emotional static, experts advise not using first-person pronouns/‘pronaʊn/when thinking about troubling events in your life. Instead, use third-person pronouns or your own name when thinking about yourself.
pronouns/‘pronaʊn/代词；[语] 代名词
Hard as they sometimes are, negative feelings are a part of everyone’s life,arguably/'ɑrɡjuəbli/more so if you are crazy busy.
arguably/'ɑrɡjuəbli/
adv. 可论证地；可争辩地；正如可提出证据加以证明的那样地
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