I had a shit day today. It's related to work. It's not about the work itself but the people I worked with.
No clear scope of work and I have already put lots effort to wipe others' shit to keep the continuity of work.
No appreciation, not been listened to. People who do not care walked away easily. People who care and do the most get the blame. Furious is the word to describe how I feel now.
Being in this negative emotion is the biggest enemy in the life, especially to my cardiovascular system. Deep breathing is only a temporary relieve, but not fully solve the problem.
Searched online to see what's the best strategy and I found Tracy Brian who is a speaker, author and success expert who spent more than 4,000 hours on the topic of how to turn a negative emotion to a positive one. I am going to share with you.
Do not blame. As per Tracy, the negative emotion comes from blaming people while we are in a negative situation. Then people hold on to the emotion and don't let it go.
The suggestion from Tracy is taking responsibility of our own reaction, response. He said it's impossible for people being responsible to reaction and response and being negative at the same time. As brain can only focus on one thing at one time. Either positive or negative. If I come across negative situation again, I need to say to myself "I am responsible, I am responsible, I am responsible "
It seems unfair for me to be responsible for all the things happen around me, but Tracy explained that even though we are not fully responsible but in relationship, there's something we do and we say which has partial effect on the situation. Therefore, we are taking partial responsibility.
Even in cases like car accident, let's say we are the victim and did not do anything wrong but the car has been crashed by another car. We are responsible for how we react. No matter how we feel, the emotion is not going to help to reverse it or change the reality, but we can choose how we feel about it. Negative situation happen, but not necessary to feel negative. It is a choice and I am responsible how I react.
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