亲密关系2-男人的情感能力
What's men's EQ？I consider it as the ability to manage a heathy,happy as well as reasonable life for family numbers. Of course, here I focus on the ability on how to treat your wife well.
什么是持家能力？我将其定义为男人自发地为其家人经营出一种健康，快乐且合理的家庭状态的能力。当然，本文我主要说的是男人对待另一半。
It's not easy,truly. In our daily lives,there are so many people leading a terrible family life.Their psychological states are not good,some even get stuck in severe depression,even if they succeed in their careers.In addition, though some people's life seem normal and healthy, there still exist some conflicts between them. They may argue,they may not be well aware of their partners' some underlying demand. The ideal family state is what we should learn to grasp.
这一点不容易，确实不容易。在我们日常生活中，很多人的家庭情感状态都谈不上很好，有些甚至还陷入严重的抑郁，即使他们在事业上很成功。其实，人的各种能力并没有很紧密的联系，智商、情商、逆商、机器商、处理情绪的能力、爱的能力等等，基本都是各自独立的。有些人虽然事业很成功，智商很高，但家庭却经营地一团糟！同时，虽然有些家庭状态看起来不错，但实际上也存在着各种问题，比如他们也会争吵，也会不知觉地忽视另一半，等。理想的家庭环境，及相应的能力，是我们应该始终努力学习并习得的。
For example,on a Chinese comedy named wives' romantic journal, it's so obvious that you could tell two different emotional state of two wives, Xie Na and Cheng Lisha. In China,women tend to focus on their families,their husbands and children after their marrige.In this situation, men's consciences as well as the behavior which results from the former matter a lot on wives' emotional state. On that comedy, as Xie Na' husband, Zhang Jie, with high ability,leads a happy life with his wife.While Guo Xiaodong, on the contrary, who owns less consciousness in intimate relationship contributes a lot to his wife's poor emotional state ,even though he is a good man. From this sort of perspective,woman's emotional state is greatly formed by man.
举个例子，最近有个情感类节目为《妻子的浪漫旅程》，在节目中你能很明显地察觉到两个妻子不同的情感状态，谢娜和程莉莎。在中国，女人婚后会倾向于将自己精力收回到家庭，集中在自己丈夫和孩子身上。在这种情况下，男人的情感意识和行为对女人的状态影响很大。在节目中，谢娜的老公张杰，情商很高，这种能力也直接影响了谢娜，她过得很开心。而相反的是，郭晓东，作为程莉莎的老公，表现就不是很好，也直接导致程莉莎的状态并不好。所以从这个角度而言，男人的生活状态很大程度上受男人的持家能力影响。
Think about that, the influence is mutual between lovers. If you manage to gain high family ability, your wife will be influenced into a better state, so as your children. All these who create a warm family atmosphere benefit a lot from the family itself.
其实想想，亲密关系中夫妻之间的影响是很大的，如果你的情商高，你的妻子状态应该也会很好，孩子同样。那些有能力让家人过得好的人，自己也会很开心。
In the end, the most important part is that we really should treat it as an important part of our lives and do something to improve our ability in this field.
最后，其实最重要的还是我们要意识到这种能力很重要，并能将其作为自己生命的一部分加以修行。
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