adulthood

    Time is magic，making a naive and careless child a real man. On the process to adulthood is like flowing down an incessant stream m,sometimes we faced boulders sticking out in the way ，sometimes we are trapped in the endless turns and don't know how to rescue ourselves to normal tracks,sometimes we entered a place so attractive and imposing like failyland of peach blossom where our heartstring will always link with，sometimes the stream suddenly cut off，the boat of our life will strand. On this caprice life stream,we are determined to be who we wanted to be.

    The difference between a teenager and an adult is the awaking of responcibility,the change from accumulation of knowledge to  that of wisdom，independant in ways of thinking.

    Firstly, a true adult is not determined by age but his sense of responcibilities. When a teenager suddently striggered by an unnoticed incident,such as berefted by accident,being poured out pent-up emotion by endeared one or wounded pride will kindle his fire of wanting to be a real man，a man can shoulder its responcibilities ,facing the challenges an adversaries of moving out of his comfort zone where he can snuggle happily in warm bedding，relish elaborated cuisine supplied by his parents into a new place where he could be mocked at，despiced by，pushed down and，also could be stand by. From then on,he is an adult can shoulder himself and his family rather than a teenager be supported by .Of course,with a determined heart is not enough，he have to take actions.As one famous poet Pingxin said :"people tend to appreciate the flower of success rather than the blood and sweat have ever poured in to make it flourishing."Action equal blood and sweat,especially unnoticed and consistant.Like a boxer must reture the.attack, an adult must respond to the strike from the life, who exams our life and gives its task upon us to accomplish.The life of adult is never an easy one,but an breath-taking one rivelling drama written by any great playwright，which when we arrived at the end of our life，the expression on our face is not regret,not grief，but a proud one，proud at our completing every task which life gave to us.

      Secondly, an adult deposits wisdom rather than accumulates knowledge,busy at making their endeared one happy rather than busy being a playbody or playgirl，living harmoniously with intricate life rather than confronting it. An adult gain wisdom from combining what they learned and what they experienced ，from slowly but incessantly ravels the mysterious veils around the world ，from gathering little joy and happiness from daily life which seems trivil to others who just rushly passing by，seeing without looking,hearing without listen，from creating a poetic  life,such as relishing a cup of coffee after back-breaking or brain-racking work，meandering on a lonely alley after the rain，on which glistening with the warm orange lamplight，or reading a good book with aroma of ink and tea permeating the whole room. The adult living like these must be the happiest one on the earth ,even when he is alone.

        Thirdly, an adult has its own critical thinking rather than relying on feeling and impulsion to make desicions.Just as someone said，a man with critical thinking is not easy to be brainwashed.I don't want to believe what others forced us to believe,to buy something we don't need and just stimulated by the silver tougue of seller to make some decisions which we will regret later.With a theoritical thinking system，we can find fallacy and think better.

    On the flowing stream,everyone have its own destination and I am just trying to find a place where my heart and soul can be nourished, my endeared ones can be well lived，my respond to strike given by life can be counted,my own decisions can be made and  my course of life can be it is.Like mystery making the life move exhilarating,my destination is veiled but I am trying paint patterns on the veil，waiting to see whether my guess could be right.

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