1月20日；
雅歌 2；
唱诗：诗篇 128:1,2

不要惊动，不要叫醒我所亲爱的，等他自己情愿。 （歌 2:7；3:5；8:4）

要把《雅歌》解释得当并非易事。按我的理解，它包含了一首婚礼歌曲的循环。尽管结构复杂，这卷圣经中仍有许多对我们来说很重要的部分。有一个反复出现的告诫很引人注意，“不要惊动，不要叫醒我所亲爱的，等他自己情愿”。这句话至少出现了三次，所以它一定非常重要。

“惊动”（arouse这里有“唤起情欲”的意思）这个词让我们联想到两性的亲密关系。不可避免地，每一份认真对待的感情都会产生越来越亲密的行为，这是正常而自然的。问题是：我们应该如何处理这种感觉。

在整个诗篇中，我们要着重注意的是，耶路撒冷的众女子一直与羚羊或田野的母鹿作类比。这些是易受惊吓的动物，一有危险的迹象就立马四散跑开。如果有人试图强迫发生身体上的亲密关系，不管是男孩还是女孩，都应该立刻跑开并远离。

有的时候，是我们故意去撩拨情欲，衣着举止给人一种出清晰的信号：我可以。《雅歌》并没有说“惊动”本身是错的，而是说它发生的时间和地点必须是正确的。

什么是正确的时间和地点？“等他自己情愿” 是指所有必要步骤都已经完成了。请记住，这是婚礼歌曲。只有当一对夫妻真正结婚后才能享受性爱，这样才能得到主耶和华的祝福。

思考问题：当条件不满足的时候，进行亲密行为会发生什么？

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January 20
Song of Songs 2
Song: Psalm 128:1,2

DO NOT AROUSE LOVE

“Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires."（Song of Songs 2:7；3:5；8:4)

It is no easy task to properly explain the song of Songs. I understand it to contain a cycle of wedding songs. Despite its complexity, there are many items in this Bible book that are important for us. One item that is striking is the recurring admonition to “not arouse or awaken love until it so desires." This admonition is found at least three times in the book, so it must be very important.

The word “arousal" leads us to think about sexual intimacy. Inevitably, every serious relationship leads to increasing arousal. This is normal and natural. The question is: How do we deal with aroused sexual feelings?

It is important to note that in all these passages, the daughters of Jerusalem are compared with the gazelles and does of the field. These are skittish animals that take off at the first indication of danger. If anyone tries to force physical intimacy, a boy or girl should immediately leave and stay away.

Sometimes, we deliberately set out to arouse. Dress and behavior give a clear mesage: I am available. The Song of Songs does not tell us that arousal itself is wrong; rather, it says that the time and place must be right.

What is the right time and place?  "Until it so desires" means the time when all the necessary steps have been followed. Remember, these are wedding songs. Sexuality can only be truly enjoyed when a couple is properly married. Then it will be blessed by the Lord.

Question: What happens to intimacy when the proper conditions are not in place?