#1 rule : don't invite Swedes to your place for dinner/fika/anything. To Swedes a home is a secret special place and you only invite your 5 best friends there and maybe your family if you can't avoid it. Always ask Swedes to meet you in a neutral location!
Swedes have a pre-set max of 10 friends, in practice this means 5-ish best friends from preschool and then just a couple of extra openings at a lower level of friendship commitment - e.g. people from work or a hobby. You can fit into these extra slots as long as you are careful to demonstrate that you are not a high maintenance friend!
My tips:
focus on Swedes who aren't from Stockholm -- it's unlikely their 5 besties moved here with them so they'll have friendship slots open
focus on Swedes who've had a lot of experience with international people -- they'll be more willing to put up with your totally clueless attempts at starting a friendship
spontaneity is not a thing here, try organizing for a date at least 2 weeks into the future
alcohol -- in smaller quantities it improves your opportunities
be patient -- I am not entirely clueless (mostly through trial and error and a bit of coaching) and I still only make ~1 new Swedish friend per year
sign up for an organized activity -- Swedes like something with a firm beginning and end and structured middle (classes, sports, etc.)
have something alive in common, like kids or a dog
When making friends with immigrants things can move more quickly. For this I recommend:
Meetup.com - there are lots of groups in Stockholm for people with all different interests
Facebook groups - try to join some that are more locally oriented so that you can meet people in person (e.g. <your nationality here> in Sweden, <your nationality here> in Stockholm, Plant swaps Stockholm, Vilken Växt, Stockholm | Girl Gone International, Svamp-klapp, Stockholm Food Movement, Stockholm AI, Tågsemester -- substitute with your own interests!)
find another immigrant with friends and ask to hang out with them
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