Well… let us begin with the most
important word “relationship”. What is a relationship? if you ask around, the definition of relationship you may find quite several meanings of this word.It’s simply that relationship is defined by one’s experience according to his/her beliefs, understanding, culture, etc.In our daily life we wish to live a happy and fulfilled life or just a decent life. We seek happiness since we’re born until we die; we meet people who contribute to our happiness and some people who are there to teach us lessons and to make us strong. In all those processes we experience different types of relationships. Love, friendship…
“Love relationship” brings us happiness at first but also sorrow, let me explain why I said happiness at first. The very first time we think we are in love the only hope is to have good times and to be happy but most of time we forget about the other side of the love when conflicts, fight and misunderstandings step in. From movies we just see how people are so in love and everything is smooth, what’s a lie!Right? Every human being has two sides: good/ bad whether we admit it or not, but that is how we’re created. The only thing that makes each individual different from the other is that each of us has choices to make; some of us might choose to develop our good side and ignore the bad side as much as possible. However someof us might choose to do the opposite. That’s why we can categorize people in different way based on their behaviour. For example we know kind/good people,
Honest/royal people and Bad/harsh people.Let us come back to “Love matters”now that we know how love can be defined according to the type of person you are in love with, based on the types we just mentioned above. Once in love we find ourselves blinded by the “spark”. The spark is when you have intense feelings for one another after your first date and the impulse making you think“I need to see this person again”. To make a relationship work we have to love each other without that spark. For example, the dating process is going well,we appreciate each other, we are really enjoying everything and all of sudden no communication, no words, nothing, one ghosts another or even zombieing the other. That is when you start wondering and roll back the whole thing trying to figure out what just had happened to you and the beginning of the different phase presents itself to us when we start experiencing self-judgements by wondering what mistakes we have made to blow up everything? but believe me most of time it is not our fault is theirs. So don’t be hard on yourself. Life istoo short; you just move on and live happily.
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