Lily's mother enters Lily's bedroom.
Lily? You should get up.
You should leave my room.
You've been in bed all day. It's summer!
I want to stay in bed and think about darkness. The world is terrible.
Teenagers are so dramatic!
When I was your age, I went out with my friends,swam every day, and learned new languages!
Learning new languages? That sounds very boring.
You should get a hobby. Hobbies are fun!
Lying in bed is my hobby.
You could join a book club.
I read alone. Like a normal person.
Photography?
Ugh. No thanks.
Oh! You like music, don't you?
Yeah…
You could play an instrument. Your dad has some old drums.
Hmm. Drums are cool…
Four hours later,Lily is playing the drums. It's loud.
very loud.
Lily, can you stop playing the drums now?
But it's my new hobby. And I need to practice at least three hours a day.
Your new hobby is giving me a headache. Now I need to lie down.
妈妈走进莉莉的房间。
“莉莉，你需要起床了”
“你需要离开我的房间”莉莉针锋相对
“你已经躺在床上一整天了，这可是夏天！”
“我就想躺在床上思考这个黑暗的可怕的世界”
“现在的青少年们太夸张了”妈妈继续唠叨：“我像你这么大的时候，和朋友们出去，每天游泳呀，学习一门新语言呀…”
“学习一门新语言？”莉莉有气无力“听起来就很无聊”
“你需要一个新的爱好，有了爱好就觉得好玩了”
“我的爱好就是躺在床上”莉莉继续抵抗
“你可以加入读书俱乐部”
“哦，我喜欢一个人读书，这才是一个正常人做的事”
“摄影呢？”妈妈不死心
“算了吧”
“你不是喜欢音乐吗？是的吧？”妈妈再次游说
“嗯”
“你可以演奏乐器啊！你爸爸有些旧的鼓…”
“呃，打鼓吗？好像很酷…”
四个小时后，莉莉还在打鼓，声音很大，非常非常大
“莉莉，你能挺住敲鼓吗？”
“这是我的新爱好！我需要每天练习至少三个小时”
“你的新爱好让我头疼，现在，我需要去躺着了”
像这样的母女对话很熟悉，几乎每家都在进行
我一直也在反思，在CJL的成长过程中，我到底做错了什么？
如果是现在，我肯定会先敲门，获得允许后才进入她的房间…
我应该会先询问，有什么需要帮忙的？大概会和她聊聊这个她认为的黑暗的可怕的世界…
坚决不能说：现在的孩子太不像话了这样的话
也许会和她分享读过的书…
也许会参与到她的新爱好中去…
没有哪个女人天生就能当好妈妈的，我们也需要不断学习，努力成长。
我想说：等莉莉们长大了，也可以选择不当母亲
不是每个女人都一定要成为妈妈的。
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