Now that you understand the thought pattern responsible for your greatest discomfort, it’s time to do some emotional excavation. Think about the very first time you noticed this thought or felt this feeling. Trace it back through your life experiences, one after the next.
Eventually, you will arrive at the origination — the root experience that created it. You will, most likely, discover that the destructive thought pattern originated as a self-defense mechanism. You picked it up after someone hurt you and you felt vulnerable.
This is essential to understanding the next step.
Identify the purpose of the thought pattern
This limiting thought pattern is serving you in some way; it’s keeping you safe. If it didn’t have a purpose, you would have let it go already.
The next step is finding a different way to make yourself feel secure, loved, and stable without having to devalue yourself in the process.
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