Yesterday, I was quite traumatized by Zhongkao test results: the scores are so high and this made me worry about my kids and the intense competition they are going to face in the near future. Even worse, Gege was diagnosed with foot inversion yesterday morning and I was informed about its potential harms including pain in feet after exercise and bad body posture. Looking at a perfectly healthy boy with inherited flaws in feet, I was so depressed.
However, nothing can be changed. Maybe focusing on the positive side is the best solution. Here I am go reorganize the core values again to help myself get clear headed.
1. good mental and physical health of myself and my family;
2. spiritual growth through reading, reflecting, and all sorts of activities;
3. efficient parenting; build good relationship with BY and the kids;
4. professional development through reading, writing and working.
About parenting, I should not drown myself in the ocean of training courses. Be selective. For them, to build good habits are the most important. 吃喝拉撒睡, to help them reflect on these tiny habits every day. Meanwhile, form positive qualities such as resilience, courage, honesty, self-discipline, compassion for oneself and others.
It is better not to learn at all than to push him all the way with harsh language and cold and arrogant attitude, as for him right now, a pleasant learning experience outweighs the results of learning. Examples of children refusing to learning new skills or taking training classes after being pushed hard to learn something are everywhere. Even though they may in the end acquire the skill, they may not be able to enjoy the skill for a long long time, which is just the opposite parents envision.
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