文/安瑞娜
Today，One of my best friends called me and say hello to me ，then she “complained”to me.
今天，我的一个闺蜜给我打来一个电话，问候了两句，之后她就向我“诉苦”。
I listened attentively，and nodded frequently，and felt personally involved.
我听得很投入，频频点头，身临其中。
In addition to looking at things from her point of view，I can finally confort her and smooth her emotions.
除了站在她的角度去看待事情以外，最后还能去安慰她，抚平她的情绪。
I don't konw how to comfort people before，but she has been telling me all kinds of sufferings since she knew me.
以前的我不懂得如何去安慰人，但她从认识我到现在都一直会和我诉各种苦。
Later，I gradually realized that people who are angry need to be listened and recognized most.
后来我渐渐明白，原来正在生气的人是最需要被倾听和认同的。
After she said a lot ，she added at the end:in fact，it's nothing ，I just need to say it out ，it will be much better.
她说了一大堆之后，最后补上一句：其实也没啥了，我就是需要说出来，会好很多。
This also stopped me from saying a lot of comforting words，of course，the problem must be solved.
这也让我准备好的一堆安慰的话止步于口了，当然了，问题的发生肯定是需要被解决的。
Except listening，comforting，and more importantly ，you can come up with some solutions for it.
除了倾听，安慰，更重要的是，你能为之想出一些办法得到解决。
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