It's not easy being a teenager - nor is it easy being the parent of a teenager. You can make your child feel angry, hurt, or misunderstood by what you say without realizing it yourself. It is important to give your child the space he needs to grow while gently letting him know that you you'll still be there for him when he needs you.
做一名青少年并不容易——做一名青少年的家长也不容易。你可能会让你的孩子感到愤怒、受伤或误解你说的话，而你自己却没有意识到。让你的孩子拥有成长所需的空间很重要，同时温柔地让他知道，当他需要你的时候，你仍然会在他身边。
Expect a lot from your child, just not everything. Except for health and safety problems, such as drug use or careless driving; consider everything else open to discussion. If your child is unwilling to discuss something, don't insist he tell you what's on his mind. The more you insist, the more likely that he'll clam up. Instead, let him attempt to solve things by himself. At the same time, remind him that you're always there for him should he seek advice or help. Show respect for your teenager's privacy. Never read him his mail or listen in on personal conversions.
对孩子有很多期望，但不能是所有。所有事情都可以公开讨论，除了健康和安全问题，如吸毒或粗心驾驶。如果你的孩子不愿意讨论某事，不必坚持让他告诉你他的想法。你越坚持，他就越有可能沉默。相反，让他自己尝试解决问题。同时，提醒他，如果他寻求建议或帮助，你总是在他身边。尊重孩子的隐私，不要偷看他的邮件，也不要偷听他的私人谈话。
Teach your teenager that the family phone is for the whole family. If your child talks on the family's telephone for too long, tell him he can talk for 15 minutes, but then he must stay off the phone for at least an equal period of time. This not only frees up the line so that other family members can make and receive calls, but teaches your teenager moderation. Or if you are open to the idea, allow your teenager his own phone that he pays for with his own pocket money or a part-time job.
让你的孩子知道家庭电话是为全家人准备的。如果你的孩子在家里打电话的时间太长，告诉他他可以打15分钟，但他必须至少在同等时间内暂停打电话。这不仅可以让其他家庭成员可以打电话、接电话，还可以教会你的孩子如何节制。或者，如果你对这个想法持开放态度，可以让你的孩子拥有自己的手机，他可以用自己的零花钱或兼职工作来支付。
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