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You can learn to love being alone
你可以学会爱上独处
For the past two years, the pandemic has forced some version of solitude upon us all.
在过去的两年里，疫情把某种形式的孤独强加给了我们所有人。
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Whether you're hoping for more time alone or less these days, solitude is something you can learn to appreciate.
（不过）不管你是想要更多的还是更少的独处时间，你都可以学着去欣赏“孤独”。
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Solitude is more enjoyable if you're in control of it.
如果你能控制它，“孤独”会更有乐趣。
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How we feel about time alone is largely dependent on whether we've chosen it, said Virginia Thomas, an assistant professor of psychology at Middlebury College who studies solitude.
明德学院研究“孤独”的心理学助理教授弗吉尼亚·托马斯说：我们对独处时间的看法很大程度上取决于我们是否主动选择了独处。
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The key is to see solitude as a choice, not a punishment.
这一切的关键就是，把孤独看作一种选择，而不是一种惩罚。
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You can learn to like it, even if you're not an introvert.
你可以学着去喜欢孤独，即使你不是一个内向的人。
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In Thomas's view, "anyone, with any personality, can enjoy it — with one caveat: if they know how to use it well."
在托马斯看来，“任何性格的人都可以享受孤独——但有一点注意事项：前提是人们知道如何好好利用孤独。”
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That means deciding what you want from your time, whether it's processing a tough situation, tapping into creativity or just enjoying five cumulative minutes without someone under 5 asking you for something.
这意味着要去决定你想从自己的时间里得到什么：不管是处理一个困难的情况、开发创造力，还是单纯地享受总计五分钟的宁静，没有 5 岁以下的人向你要这要那。
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The key to dispelling the discomfort is to replace it with something enjoyable. And no, doom scrolling Twitter doesn't count as healthy solitude.
消除这种不适感的关键是用一些令人愉快的事情来代替它。不，在推特上“阴暗刷屏”并不算是健康的独处。
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There are ways to make solitude easier.
有很多方法可以让独处变得更容易。
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Checking in with a friend can still be part of your solitude ritual.
与朋友联系仍然可以是你独处惯例的一部分。
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You can also do a solitary activity but share it communally. Gina Moffa, a grief and trauma psychotherapist in New York City, is part of a group chat with friends who text each other their Wordle scores every day. "We all do this thing quietly on our own, but it becomes something that connects us when we share it," she said.
你也可以完成一些单人的活动，但与他人共享这件事。吉娜·莫法是纽约市一位悲伤和创伤心理治疗师，她和朋友们会在群聊里每天互相发送 Wordle 分数。她说：“我们都会自己悄悄地做这件事，但当我们分享时，它就会成为我们之间的纽带。”
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重点词汇
force
/fɔːrs/
v. 强迫
搭配短语：force sth. upon sb.
例句：Students hate having these decisions forced upon them.
solitude
/ˈsɑː.lə.tuːd/
n. 独处，孤独
词根词缀：sol-（单独，独自）
衍生词：solo（n. 独唱，独奏）
衍生词：soliloquy（n. 独白，自言自语）
词义辨析：solitude，loneliness
solitude 表示 the state or situation of being alone，“独处的情况或状态”，而且尤其表示平静愉快的独处，比如，She enjoyed the solitude of the woods.“她喜欢森林里的清净”。而 loneliness 则强调因为没有人陪伴而感到忧伤，比如 I have a fear of loneliness deep down. “我内心深处很害怕寂寞”。
in control of
控制，掌管……
例句：We should all be in control of our own lives.
introvert
/ˈɪn.trə.vɝːt/
n. 性格内向的人
词根词缀：intro-（向内的，向里的）
词根词缀：-vert（转向）
词根词缀：extro-（向外的）
反义词：extrovert
personality
/ˌpɝː.sənˈæl.ə.t̬i/
n. 性格；个性
例句：He lacks personality.
近义词：character
搭配短语：personality traits
caveat
/ˈkæv.i.æt/
n.告诫，提醒
英文释义：a warning that should be remembered
例句：The investment advice comes with a caveat that the stock market is impossible to predict with absolute accuracy.
process
/ˈprɑː.ses/
v. 处理
词性拓展：process（n. 过程）
近义短语：deal with
例句：Visa applications take 28 days to process.
tap into
利用，开发
近义短语：make use of
例句：We need to tap into new markets.
cumulative
/ˈkjuː.mjə.lə.t̬ɪv/
adj. 渐增的，积累的
英文释义：increasing over time through a series of additions
例句：Learning English is a cumulative process.
dispel
/dɪˈspel/
v. 消除，驱散
英文释义：to make something go away
搭配短语：to dispel your doubts
搭配短语：to dispel rumors
check in with
向......了解情况
相关词汇：check in（签到，登记；了解情况）
搭配短语：check in at a hotel
例句：I'll check in with you later to see how things are going.
ritual
/ˈrɪtʃ.u.əl/
n. 惯例；仪式
搭配短语：religious ritual
例句：Coffee and the newspaper are part of my morning ritual.
communally
/kəˈmjuː.nəl.i/
adv. 公共地，集体地
相关词汇：communal（adj. 公共的，集体的）
英文释义：shared by a group of people
搭配短语：a communal bathroom
grief
/ɡriːf/
n. 悲伤，忧伤
搭配短语：greif at / over
例句：He has been unable to recover from his grief over his wife's death.
trauma
/ˈtrɑː.mə/
n. 心理创伤
搭配短语：trauma of
搭配短语：the trauma of being a refugee
psychotherapist
/ˌsaɪ.kəˈθer.ə.pɪst/
n. 心理治疗师
相关词汇：therapist（n. 治疗师）
词根词缀：psycho-（与心理有关的）
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