Fear of rejection, most of the time, 90% of our relationship problems ah, come from the fear of rejection, because of the fear of rejection will often compromise themselves, even if there are ten thousand do not want to, compromise to say so, calculated to their own time and energy, do not say that a story.
Don't want to trouble others is always the object of the trouble, in the end their own things all not done, life and work in a mess, she became a live to please type personality. There is really no need to set limits. Lincoln said that a fountain is never higher than its source, and a man's achievements are never higher than his beliefs.
To set limits to yourself, is to kill their own latent ability, in the heart to give themselves a default height of the psychological. Height often implies to oneself, this THING I certainly can't do well, do almost can.
Low educational background, low ability, no background and so on are all the circles that we draw for ourselves. If we stay in this comfort circle for a long time and dare not break through ourselves, we will slowly lose our morale like a frog boiled in warm water. All mediocrity and inaction are the result of limiting ourselves.
害怕拒绝，很多时候，我们90%的人际关系的问题啊，都来自于害怕拒绝，因为害怕拒绝而会经常委屈自己，就算心里有一万个不愿意，也妥协说就这样吧，算到自己的时间精力也好，不说出那一个故事。
不愿意麻烦别人却总是那个被麻烦的对象，到头来自己的事情全没做好，生活工作一团糟，她活生生的变成了一个讨好型人格。真的没有必要给自己设限，林肯说过，喷泉的高度不会超过它的源头，一个人的成就也绝不会超过他的信念。
给自己设限，就等于亲手杀死了自己的潜能力，在心里给了自己一个默认的高度这个心理。高度常常暗示自己，这个事情我肯定没办法做好，做得差不多就可以了。
学历不高，能力不强，没有背景等等都是我们自己给自己画的圈，长时间待在这个舒适圈里，不敢突破自己，就会像温水煮青蛙，慢慢的失去斗志，所有的平庸和无为都是给自己设限的结果。
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