《致孩子》

我的连载《我和女儿》的初中部分即将完结。今天有些忙碌，也有些疲惫，我打算明天有时间再酝酿一下，所以今日的连载暂停一次。

对于孩子的教育，首先家长要有清楚的认知，你究竟是真正的爱孩子，还是以爱的名义去捆绑和束缚孩子？

孩子本应该是独立的，是与父母平等的个体。父母只能给孩子以爱，而不能代替他们思想和灵魂的形成，每个孩子应该都有拥有自己，而不是成为父母期望的复制品。

再次推荐纪伯伦的《致孩子》，与大家共读。

《致孩子》——纪伯伦【黎巴嫩】

Your children are not your children.

你的孩子，并不是你的孩子。

They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.

他们是生命对于自身渴望而诞生的孩子。

They come through you but not from you,

他们借助你来到这个世界，却并非因你而来，

And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.

他们陪伴你，却并不属于你。

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,

你可以给予他们爱，却不能给予他们思想，

For they have their own thoughts.

因为他们有自己的思想。

You may house their bodies but not their souls,

你可以庇护他们的身体，却不能庇护他们的灵魂，

For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

因为他们的灵魂属于明天，属于你在梦境中也无法达到的明天。

You may strive to be like them,

but seek not to make them like you,

你可以拼尽全力，变得像他们一样，却不要让他们变得和你一样，

For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

因为生命不会倒退，也不可能在过去停留。

You are the bows from which your children

as living arrows are sent forth.

你是弓，你的孩子是弦上即将发出的生命箭矢。

The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,

弓箭手遥望未来之路上的箭靶，

and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.

用尽力气将你拉开，使箭射得又快又远。

Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness,

你们怀着愉悦的心情，在弓箭手的手中弯曲吧，

For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.

因为他爱一路飞翔的箭，也爱无比稳定的弓。