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这本书是今年1月份参加一个读书会时买的。因为赶不上读书会的进度和要求，索性就自己慢慢读了。这本书的作者是由住在纽约的知名博主Mark Manson所著。看书名就知道跟市面上一水的心灵励志鸡汤截然不同。在序言中他写道:“In life, we have a limited amount of fucks to give. So you must choose your fucks wisely.”在没有开始读之前，我以为not giving a fuck 指的是对任何事情都不必太在乎。但看到page14宗旨之一时: Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different. 其中另一句直指人心：They’re afraid to let anyone get close to them, so they imagine themselves as some special, unique snowflake who has problems that nobody else would ever understand. 说的好像就是我。宗旨之二：To not give a fuck about adversity, you must first give a fuck about something more important than adversity. 宗旨之三：Whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing what to give a fuck about.

第二章名为“ Happiness is a Problem”. 在这个人人追求“快乐”的时代，the greatest truths in life are usually the most unpleasant to hear. Because it’s the mildly dissatisfied and unsecure creature that’s going to do the most work to innovate and survive. Happiness comes from solving problems. 第三章You Are Not Special 中讲到：Most of us are pretty average at most things we do. To become truly great at something, you have to dedicate shit-tons of time and energy to it. 在讲到自我意识的时候又说道：Self-awareness is like an onion. There are multiple layers to it, and the more you peel them back, the more likely you are going to start crying at inappropriate times.

In a nutshell, what “self-improvement” is really about:prioritizing better values, choosing better things to give a fuck about.

总体来说，本书难度不大，非常适合在路上或是闲散时间来阅读。我大概半个月时间读完此书，当然只是皮毛而已，有时间还要再细细研读。