0324.Reading notes《The Willpower

Chaptrer 7  末

A TIME TO WAIT, AND A TIME TO GIVE IN   该等待的时候，该屈服的时候

UNDER THE MICROSCOPE: ARE YOU TOO FARSIGHTED FOR YOUR OWN GOOD?

深入剖析：为了你自己好，你是不是太"高瞻远瞩"了？

words and phrases

（1）farsighted ['fɑː'saɪtɪd]

adj. 有远见的；能看到远处的

同义词：forward-looking，sagacious

反义词：nearsightedadj   近视的；浅见的

原句：Kivetz calls this condition hyperopia-a fancy way of saying farsighted. Most people, as we've seen, are perpetually nearsighted.

仿写：He is farsighted as a company's leader.

（2）hurdle ['hɜːd(ə)l]

n. 障碍；栏；跳栏

vt. 克服

vi. 克服；跳过

过去式 hurdled，过去分词 hurdled，现在分词 hurdling

原句：I was nervous about whether I would succeed in grad school, and in my mind, getting in was just the first hurdle.我不知道自己能否在研究生阶段取得成功，而且在我看来，入学是我需要跨越的第一个坎。

仿写：They had jumpped lots of hurdles since beginning this task.

（3）settle ['set(ə)l]

vi. 解决；定居；沉淀；下陷

vt. 解决；安排；使…定居

n. 有背长椅

settle (sb) down （使某人）安静下来，（使某人）停止讲话

settle back 舒服地躺[坐]下

settle for sth 勉强接受，将就

settle account 结帐,帐务处理,结算

settle with 清算,与人协商,偿还

原句：I settled in to the psychology department, but the time still didn’t feel right to drink the champagne.

仿写：We  must settle the matter by ourselves now.

（4）purchase ['pɜ:tʃəs]  

n. 购买；紧握；起重装置

vt. 购买；赢得

vi. 购买东西

cash purchase 现金购买,现金购置

purchase contract 购货合同

原句：Do you feel so guilty or anxious about spending money that you find it hard to purchase anything beyond the absolute basics?

仿写：We need to purchase articles for daily use In the supermarket every week.

（5）distract [dɪ'strækt]  

   vt. 转移；分心

distract thinking 发散思维

distract from 转移；使从…分心

distracted  adj. 心烦意乱的；思想不集中的    v. 分心（distract的过去式）

原句：We fail to predict how we will be tempted or distracted, so we fail to protect ourselves from abandoning our goals.

仿写：He was distracted by anxiety .

Sentence

People who suffer from hyperopia are chronically farsighted-they cannot see the value of giving in today. This is as big a problem as being nearsighted; both lead to disappointment and unhappiness in the long run（从长远看来，终究，最终；结果）.

那些受“高瞻远瞩”折磨的人则习惯看得更远，而看不到屈服于诱惑时的快感。这个问题其实和“目标短浅”一样严重，最后都会带来失望和不快乐。

For people who have trouble saying yes to temptation, giving in requires as much self-control as saying no does for the rest of us.

对那些无法对诱惑说好的人，他们屈服诱惑时需要的自控力，和我们抵抗诱惑力时需要的意志力一样多。

Do you have a hard time taking a break from work because there is always more to do? Do you feel so guilty or anxious about spending money that you find it hard to purchase anything beyond the absolute basics? Do you ever look back at how you have spent your time and money, and wish you had been more focused on your present happiness instead of always putting it off?

你是否有过这样的感觉：因为总有更多的事情要做，似乎没办法放下工作休息一下？你是否对花钱产生了太多的罪恶感和焦虑感，以至于除了购买生活必需品，你觉得自己很难再去买变得东西？你有没有回头看过你是如何花费时间和金钱的？你会不会希望当时你能更关注即时快乐，而不总是去推迟享受？

To make wiser decisions, we need to better understand and support our future selves. And we need to remember that the future self who receives the consequences of our present self s actions is, indeed, still us, and will very much appreciate the effort.

如果我们想要做出更明智的决定，就要更好的理解和支持未来的自己。我们还需要记住，为现在的行为承担后果的，看似是未来的自己，实际上还是我们自己。未来的自己会对我们现在的付出感激不尽。

The Idea: Our inability to clearly see the future clearly leads us into temptation and procrastination.

我们无法明确的预知未来，这为我们带来了诱惑，让我们拖延着不做某些事。

——  启  发  ——

启  发 ① 作者在这一章末尾给读者刻意的提了个醒：观察一下自己有没有太"高瞻远瞩"了？这个醒很重要，让我们学会辩证思维。阅读一本书，和作者思维碰撞，有两点很重要：1，快速的获取一些常识性的知识，以便于更好的观察自己，看待生活；2，根据作者的某些观点个性化匹配符合自己的行为调整和改进的1,2,3...这个匹配很重要。盲目的照搬很容易削足适履....

启  发 ②   凡事都有两面性或者多面性，自控力同样如此。其实这本书很早之前保存在书单里，但是一直没买，因为总觉得“自控力”这三个字让人看着就觉得有压力，如果一个人一生做所有的事情都需要通过自控力才能完成，那人生得多压抑啊？你看完一本书不可能若无其事不受任何影响，或多或少都会受到作者观点及价值观的引导，所以在茫茫书海寻找合适的书籍很重要，没看之前总觉得这可能又是一本成功励志心灵鸡汤类的书籍。这次因为英语共读而购买了这本书的英文版，在阅读的梳理过程中，才发现和我想象中的成功励志书还是很大不一样的，一定程度上我倒觉得这是一本讲自控力与大脑思维及行为习惯的科普读物，一本涉及到很多常识类的书籍，还是很值得阅读的，因为很多时候，我们也许不是缺信息或者知识，而是常识。

启  发 ③  关于自控力的使用，可以更辩证的看待。合理的使用意志力，但是不依赖意志力...

光靠自我不断鞭策才能前行必然不能远行，疲惫感和焦虑感会很快袭来。人是宇宙间最奇妙的创造，人因七情六欲而生动和精彩.....所以，有些时候不妨跟着感觉走，意志力和做成一件事也许一定程度上成正比，但是和幸福并不存在正相关性。就像文章中说：对那些无法对诱惑说好的人，他们屈服诱惑时需要的自控力，和我们抵抗诱惑力时需要的意志力一样多。其实，过于克制和压抑自己，会造成无比巨大的身心压力.....所以，我们需要了解自己的承压指数，根据自己个性化的选择自控力指数，如果依靠意志力在自己不喜欢的领域艰难支撑，还不如享受当下自由选择，尝试更多路径呢。但最好的结果是，某天我们去高效完成的事情根本不需要靠意志力支撑，你就是想义无反顾的走向前去，只因为热爱和喜欢。要相信，这个世界上一定有一些事情，是我们想做，而无需大范围调动意志力的，这个前提是：找到我们真正热爱并且愿意付之无限热情的那件关键事情。

Summary

I get  the scientific  basis and methods of the willpower challenge through studying this chapter.I would like to try the ten-minute rule to help myself overcome the temptation to procrastinate.It is not inexhaustible although the willpower can be exercised as muscle,we should use the willpower correctly. Sometimes we should be more focused on our present happiness instead of always putting it off.

The key is that we will try to find the most passionate things in our life!