欢迎大家回来，下半场人生小贴士分享正式开始。

6.信任–自己和他人

相信自己

说起来容易，但做起来？和大多数人一样，分享会之前的我很紧张。因为这是我第一次主持公众分享会，而且我不想让团队失望。那最后我究竟是如何克服紧张的呢？两个小妙招。

1. 自我对话

听起来是不是有点疯狂？可其实这是被很多心理学家证明的一个非常有效的小攻略。而且这次我是双管齐下，口头书面并用。把思绪写在纸上能让我更清晰地了解自己的所思所想。以下就是我与自己的一些私密对话 （有没有太无畏，掌声在哪里？）

“我现在是什么感觉？”

“紧张，担心，也很激动。”

“为什么会紧张担心呢？”

“因为想着，到时会不会出现一些技术问题？我到底能不能做好这个工作呢？”

对话继续。

“那么我能控制这些情境吗？”

“很遗憾，不能。“

“那有什么是我可以控制的吗？”

“有，精气神和准备工作。”

“我的准备工作做得如何呢？”

“很好。已经认真准备一个月了，我还是很了解我的嘉宾们的。”

所以嘛~

2. 想想我的过去，现在和未来

过去：我经历过很多事情，而且也注意到它们有个共同模式：每次在活动前我都会非常紧张。但到最后都发现其实并没有自己想的那么可怕。例如最近我为学校主持的各种在线活动就是一个非常典型的例子。所以，这次应该也一样吧。

现在：这学期我已经做了好几个在线活动了，而且自己还是一档电台节目的主播，所以我也算是很有经验的啦。另外，我相信所有事情的发生都有它的原因。这个宇宙一定是认为我是这次分享会的最佳人选。 😊

未来：想象一下，十年后的我，回望这个瞬间，会怎么想？可能早就忘记了吧。这个活动在十年的时间线里，是多渺小啊。既然如此，为什么我不好好做真我，活在当下，感受其中的乐趣呢？

相信他人

当我被告知分享会我将与D合作时（她将给我传递问题并提醒我时间），还挺担心的。因为我们都没怎么说过话。S说：

“只有当你完全信任她时，你才能更好地专注于你主持的部分。”

真理~ 当时的我就想着她会让这次活动锦上添花的。信任，信任，信任。果然，她表现得特别专业，细心，负责。而且还发来暖心的赞美我主持的信息，给我加油打气。在这里真的要再次感谢你。和你合作我非常幸运。

这也让我联想到授权的基础-信任。只有当我们在分配任务时全身心的相信下属，我们才能将团队价值发挥到最大化。因为我们可以更专注于自己的任务，而他们则会尽全力不负我们的期望。

7.激情/梦想的力量

这次分享会再次让我看到什么是我的挚爱，连自己都被它强大的力量所折服。

仍然记得我在阅读嘉宾们的背景故事和文章时的兴奋，一篇接一篇，根本停不下来。之后，在Zoom上与他们见面，和每个人聊完天后我都觉得自己电量全满。

另一件事情也让我至今记忆犹新。那是一个晚上，我结束了一天忙碌的工作，看到推广文与本次分享会想表达的主题并不十分吻合，于是决定马上修改。完稿时发现已是午夜。当时的我困得想倒头就睡，但心里却没有丝毫抱怨。相反，是满满的成就感。有它就够了，千金不换。

此刻的你可能在想：

“可是，我好像从未拥有过这种感觉。”

或者

“我不知道我的激情是什么。”

又或者

“我觉得我可能就没有梦想吧。”

这些想法我都特别能理解。因为1年半前的我和你们也是一样的。所以，这里我想说的是，坦诚的接受现状，并给自己耐心：我们有一生的时间去探索并发现它呢。不过在这里我也给你们准备了一个助推器：

问自己一些问题，并用心反思，记录让你兴奋的时刻。问题可以是：

•当我做哪些事会忘记时间？

•有什么事，即使没有任何报酬，我都依然甘愿去做？

•小时候的我喜欢做什么呢？（可以向你的家人求救，不计你犯规）

我相信，当你开始追随心中的好奇并将这些瞬间相连时，你就一定会在对的时刻开启你人生迷宫的钥匙。听起来就很有趣，不是吗？

8.授权

Photo by Helena Lopes on Unsplash

过去的我一直以为，我又不是经理，所有的任务当然只有靠自己解决。现在才发现，只要我们有心，四周其实有很多资源可以求救。

作为这次分享会的主力军，我承担了大部分的任务（例如，与嘉宾交流，并准备潜在问题，推广文和海报）。但我逐渐意识到自己无法完成所有的工作。

于是这迫使我去寻求助手（授权）。有谁可以替我分担一些任务并且擅长做这些吗？这时我的一个学生S浮现眼前。他最后也真的没有让我失望，完成的又好又快。 （谢谢）

想象一下，如果是我来做，花费更多的时间不说（因为我从未做过），做的肯定也没有他好（这不是我的强项）。由此，我学会了我两件事：

我们的时间有限，所以要专注于我们的长处。这样做其实是在帮助整个宇宙。我们会更加高效并富有创造力-因此也更容易触碰到幸福和成功。

另外，不要让不想给别人添麻烦成为拦路虎。我们是一个团队啊。如果你因此而不能顺利完成任务最终搞砸分享会，你觉得这是队友们想看见的吗？想想大目标。但是，根据每个人的优势分配任务还是很重要的。

9.准备（ 被忽略却很重要的两大元素 ）

进步点

坦白时刻：我不是一个很有条理的人，不过这次为了分享会我做了一些积极的改变。例如，我在纸上写下了详细的时间表（包括每个嘉宾的开始和完成时间）和问题清单。神奇的是，这个小举动却给我的心灵带来了异样的安详与恬静。此外，充分的准备工作也让我在分享会时能一心多用。

需要改进点

我对一项任务的预计完成时间总比实际花费时间要短（没办法，乐观人的烦恼）。这次也不例外。分享会前一小时的我可谓是压力山大。

最初，我想用那一时段思考我的自我介绍。但是，没想到团队突然发问：“谁来介绍嘉宾们-读简介？”最后，我不得不陷入各种手忙脚乱中。场景重现：口中忙碌跟读一些词语发音的姑娘脑中飞转思考如何自我介绍。

那时的我默默许愿，下一次我一定准备缓冲时间，至少提前一天，我真的不想再这样慌乱了。

10.对待过去的正确态度

直到最后，我才想起向组织过分享会的其它队友们取经。为什么？

两个原因吧。一，自尊心作怪。认为自己可以应付，我是有经验人士啊。

第二是害怕被嘲笑：

“她们听到我的问题时怎么想？会不会笑话我，觉得我怎么连这么基础的信息都不知道？”

幸运的是，反方论点取胜：

“如果不问会有什么潜在后果呢？错过一些盲点可能会因此搞砸这次分享会哦。”

通过问H，让我明白该如何计划分享会的时间表以及需要准备的问题数。此外，我还受到启发而想到给我们的着装添加要求，需要有蓝色注入。还赋予了与主题相辉映的特别涵义。

与S的交谈则让我对一些细节问题和心态有了重新思考。例如，在分享会前应设立等候区，尽管需要给嘉宾们重新发Zoom链接，但值得。因为我看到了权衡轻重的重要。

心态方面，则应是-报最大的希望，做最坏的准备（一颗红心，两手准备）。我从来没有考虑过分享会当天可能会出现的一些负面情境，例如，一些人说一些无礼的话。想象这些突发状况让我提醒自己要时刻保持镇定和微笑。幸运的是，分享会进行的非常顺利。但我仍然看到拥有这种心态的优势，能让我们在极端情况发生时减少不必要的恐慌。

以上就是我反思学到的所有内容啦。欢迎在下方留言告诉我哪条对你最受用。让我们一起分享，共同成长吧。

10 Life Lessons I Learned From My First Public Webinar (Part 2)

Welcome back!

Let's continue my reflective journal, another 5 life lessons I learned from organising and hosting my first ever public webinar Reimagine Your Career.

6. Trust – myself and others

Trust myself

It was not easy. I was nervous before the webinar like most people. This was my FIRST public webinar. Also, I had pressure on myself – I didn’t want to let the team down. So how did I manage in the end? Two easy tricks.

Trick 1: Self-talk

I found having positive conversations with myself through the verbal and written form was very useful. Writing things down really helped me to get a clearer picture of the current state, and these were some conversations I had with myself below:

“What do I feel right now?”

“Scared, nervous, and excited.”

“Why do I feel scared and nervous?”

“I am just worried what if we had some technical issues? Or someone might post inappropriate messages in the chat? Or I didn’t do a good job?”

The conversations continued.

“Can I do anything to control these?”

“No. “

“So is there anything that I can control?”

“My energy level and preparation.”

“How’s my preparation?”

“Good. I have been doing this for a month, and I know my guests pretty well.”

Trick 2: Think of my past, present and future timeline

Past: A lot of things that I have been through, I noticed they had a similar pattern: I always felt nervous and worried beforehand. And it usually turned out to be okay in the end, such as the recent webinars I hosted for my workplace. Thus, this webinar should be the same.

Present: I have been doing different webinars and radio shows for a while, so I am experienced. Also, I believe everything happens for a reason. The universe must think I am the most suitable person for this webinar. 😊

Future: Imagine, if this is me 10 years later, looking back, what would I feel? Probably nothing. What a small tiny event over these 10 years. Right. So I just need to be authentic, enjoy the moment and have fun.

Trust others

Initially, when I was told that I was going to work with D closely during the webinar, I was a bit worried. Because I didn’t know her very well, and we’ve never worked together before. Thanks to S for telling me:

“Only when you trust D fully can you focus on your hosting part well.”

It proved to be so true. S was so professional and reliable. I felt so lucky to work with her this time.

That also reminds me of the foundation for delegation: trust. Only when we trust our subordinates while delegating tasks can we then maximise the value of the team. That is, we focus on our own tasks while they will try hard to live up to our trust.

7. The power of passion

Organising this webinar reaffirmed my passion and even impressed me by its strong power.

What did I feel when I was organising this webinar?

Excited!

I still remember when I was reading speakers’ background stories and the articles they wrote, I was so drawn into them that I couldn’t even stop reading. Later on, when I met guests via Zoom before the webinar, I got so energised after every single chat. I found we had a lot in common, the self-discovery journey and the desire to grow and serve our community.

One night after I finished my day job, I noticed one promotional article wasn’t quite matched with the theme of this webinar. So I decided to revise it. When I finally completed it, I realised it was midnight already. However, even though I felt so tired that I just wanted to jump into bed straight away, my mood was still joyful with a sense of achievement. And that was all I wanted.

I can hear your internal monologue right now.

“Sadly, I’ve never experienced those feelings.”

Or 

“I don’t know what my passion is.”

Or

“I don’t think I have any passion.” 

That’s totally fine and common. In fact, I’ve only discovered mine around1.5 years ago. Be positive about it. We have a whole life to figure it out. Meanwhile, I have some easy and practical tools for you too.

Start to ask yourself some questions, be mindful, reflect and keep a record of your exciting moments. Some questions might be:

Is there anything that makes me lose track of time?

Is there anything that I am willing to do even if I don’t get paid?

What things did I love to do as a kid? (ask your parents for help if needed)

I believe, when you begin to follow your curiosity and connect these dots, you will eventually find the key to the puzzle of your world. Sounds pretty fun, hey?

8. Delegation

In the past, I always thought since I wasn’t a manager, I had to do every task on my own. Now I know I was wrong. We do have so many resources around us if we pay attention.

As the main organiser for this webinar, I was required to do almost everything (e.g., communicating with the guests, and preparing for the question list, promotional writeups and posters). As time passed by, I realised there was no way for me to complete them all.

It then forced me to think of seeking extra help (delegation). Is there anyone else who can do some work for me and is good at doing that? My student S instantly popped into my mind. As a result, he did it so well and so fast. (Thanks)

Imagine, if it was me, it would have taken me so much time to complete it, because I had never done that before and it wasn’t my strength either. That taught me two things:

Our time is limited. Focus on our strengths.By doing this, we are helping the whole universe. We will be more efficient, creative, and productive — we will be happier and more successful.

Also, don’t be afraid to ask for help, which is one of the benefits of working in a team. Knowing everyone’s strength and delegate tasks to them accordingly become so essential.

9. Preparation (prepare thoroughly and have cushion time)

Good change

I am not a very organised person, as you know, but I made some changes this time. I wrote down a detailed webinar schedule (even has each speaker’s starting time and finishing time for their parts despite knowing I would get the reminders from my team too) and a potential question list. Magically, this gave me more inner peace. Also, great preparation enabled me to multi-task while hosting the webinar, as I already knew every guests’ stories well after studying them intensively.

One thing for me to work on

My estimated completion time for each task was always shorter than the actual time spent. (What an optimistic person I am.) This time was not an exception, unfortunately. I didn’t leave any time for unforeseeable interruptions. Therefore, I got stressed right before the webinar.

Initially, I was planning that time block for my introduction. However, I got caught up by the question asked from the team: “who will read out guests’ bio?” In the end, I had to juggle, a busy girl madly checking some correct pronunciations from the bios.

So, next time, I really need to budget cushion time(extra time for some unforeseeable tasks) while planning.

10. Learn from the past (ask people who have done the projects before or research any efficient methods)

Asking team members who had organised webinars before didn’t come to my mind until the very last minute. Why? Two reasons, I guess. First,self-pride. I thought I could handle it. The second would bethe fear of being judged:

“what would they think when hearing my questions? Would they laugh at me how come I didn’t even know this basic information?”

Luckily, other thoughts won over these negative perspectives. They were:

Apart from this self-pride and potential worry,is there anything else I would lose by doing it?No.What about anything I might win if I asked for help?The outcome of this webinar. I am so glad that I did ask.

By asking H, I got a better idea of what a webinar schedule should look like and how many potential questions I should prepare for each speaker. Besides, I got inspired to think of the colour code idea for our speakers, we all wearing something in blue. And I even came up with a special meaning of this colour matched with the webinar theme.

Talking to S taught me something new regarding the logistic and mindset area. For example, we need to have a waiting room before the webinar starts and a mentality ofexpecting the worst and hoping for the best.

I’ve never thought of some bad scenarios, such as what if one person said something rude during the webinar. Preparing for these situations helped me know the importance of keeping calm as a host. Luckily, the webinar went very smoothly in the end. But I still believe I should always have this mindset, so I will panic less if anything extreme happens.

These are all the things I reflected and learned from the webinar. Pleaseleave a comment below:

Which tip do you find the most helpful for you?

What the most useful life lesson you’ve learned so far?