Are you a hopeless romantic? Do you get excited by the idea of falling in love with the man or woman of your dreams? Does watching a romcom or a period drama on TV make you cry? Or are you someone who thinks romance is based on an idealised view of reality that doesn't really exist? Well, you could be right!
你是一名无可救药的浪漫主义者吗？你对爱上你梦中情人感到兴奋吗？电视里的浪漫剧和古典剧会使你落泪吗？或者你是那些觉得浪漫主义是基于根本不真实存在的现实观点的人吗？好吧，你可能是对的。
I'm no romantic and more of a realist– taking a more practical approach to love - maybe that's why I never had many girlfriends! But if you really are expecting the kind of love that makes your heart flutte rwith happiness you may be dissapointed.
我不是一名浪漫主义者，更多的是一名现实主义者——我会采取更现实的方式去艾——也许这就是为什么我从没有过很多女朋友！但是如果你这的盼望得到那份使人怦然心动的爱情，你可能会失望。
Our expectation of what romance is, probably originated from the Romantic period- an artistic, literary, musical and intellectual movement that originated in Europe in the 18th Century. The notion of falling in love, getting married and living happily ever after were culturally held ideas formed during this period and still exist today.
我们对浪漫行为的期盼，可能要追溯到浪漫主义时期——那是源自于18世纪时期的欧洲一场艺术、文学、音乐和思想上的运动。恋爱、结婚以及幸福生活的观念就是在这段时期形成的，至今仍然存在。
Of course there's nothing wrong with liking the idea of romance; it makes us feel good – but we must be careful not to use it as a benchmark for our own relationships. This idealised version of love leaves out the nitty-gritty of real-life relationships. There's usually work, finances and other stresses of everyday life to deal with. You can't expect romantic gestures like a bunch of red roses every day – there are bills to pay!
当然喜欢浪漫的想法并没有什么错，它使我们感觉很美好——但是在处理我们自己的关系时一定要注意不能把它当做参考标准。这种理想化的爱情版本已经脱离了现实生活中人际关系的本质。日常生活中经常有工作、财务以及其他压力需要处理。你不可能期望每天的生活如一束束鲜红的玫瑰一样——毕竟有那么多的账单需要支付！
Many popular love stories end at the point where the characters get together or tie the knot. That puts the focus on finding someone special. But very few show us how to keep that perfect catch over a long period of time. A relationship is hard work. It’s frustrating, messy and can be emotionally damaging.
许多流行的爱情故事通常在人物相聚或者结婚的时候终结了。它把重点放在寻找一个特殊的人上面。但是很少人会告诉我们如何长时间保持良好的完美的恋爱关系。维持这种关系是一项艰巨的工作。它会使人沮丧，凌乱，而且在感情上容易受到伤害。
If you're still convinced romance isn't dead, how will you ever find it? Historian and TV presenter Lucy Worsley thinks nowadays, any idea of romance is dying because it has become "too easy" to meet new people via dating apps.She told the BBC the "slow exquisite torture of love in Jane Austen novels no longer existed in the age of Grindr and Tinder [apps]."
如果你仍然对罗曼蒂克充满信心，那么你如何去寻找到它呢？历史学家和电视节目主持人Lucy Worsley目前认为，任何的罗曼蒂克想法正在灭亡，因为通过交友软件认识新朋友已经很容易了。她对BBC说“在简奥斯丁小说中”细腻的爱情故事在如今这个Grindr（男同性恋APP）和Tinder（交友APP）年代已不复存在”。
Perhaps romance is best left to the movies – a fantasy that makes us feel good – and instead concentrate on finding a good and healthy relationship with its ups and downs but one that is full of love. Do you believe romance really exists?
也许罗曼蒂克是电影留给我们的最好幻想，它使我们感觉美好，而不是专注于寻找一个美好健康曲折起伏充满爱恋的关系。你真的相信罗曼蒂克存在吗？
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