人际交往之我见
My Opinion on Interpersonal Communication

1）

没有人在生活中能完全避免与别人碰撞。你不得不以各种方式奋力挤过人群，冒犯别人的同时也忍受别人的冒犯。——托马斯.卡莱尔

No one can completely avoid collision with others in life. You have to try your best to squeeze through the crowd in various ways, offending others and putting up with the offense of others at the same time. -- Thomas Carlyle

2）

只懂索取而不懂回报的人，只会将别人的热情和善意一点点消耗殆尽。

People who only know how to take but not know how to return will only consume the enthusiasm and kindness of others bit by bit.

3）

生命就像一种回声，你给别人最好的，往往也会在不经意间，从别人那里收获最好的。

Life is like an echo; if you give others the best, you often inadvertently get the best from others.

4）

余生，愿你脸上带笑，心里有光，能给别人温暖，也能从别人身上收获温暖。

For the rest of your life, may you have smiles on your face and light in your heart, so that you can give warmth to others and gain warmth from others.

5）

语言的艺术很微妙，它可以成为一团暖人的火，也可以成为一把杀人的刀。

The art of language is very subtle. It can become a flame to give warmth or a knife to kill.

6）

学会顾忌别人的感受，掌握说话的分寸，才能让人相处舒服，如沐春风。

Learn to scruple the feelings of others, master the propriety of speech in order to make people get along comfortably, just like bathing in the spring breeze.

7）

尽量少给别人添麻烦，因为每个人都在自己的生活里忙碌，谁都没有义务替你分担生活的苦难。

Try to give others less trouble, because everyone is busy in their own life,and no one has the obligation to share the suffering of life for you.

8）

舒服的社交状态，是互不亏欠。最大限度地去理解每个人的内心世界，不亏待别人，也不为难自己。

The comfortable social state is that we don't owe each other. Try to understand everyone's inner world as much as possible, and don't treat others badly or embarrass yourself.

9）

唯有用真心回馈真心，善意回报善意，才能拥有一段长久的友谊。

Only by rewarding sincerity with sincerity and returning kindness with kindness, can we have a long-term friendship.

10）

赞美他人是高级生产力。

Being good at praising others is a high level of productivity.

如果你不愿意当面夸人，可以背后夸，夸人的话早晚会传到对方耳朵里。

If you don't want to praise someone face to face, you can praise him behind his back. Sooner or later, the words will spread to his ears.

每个人都希望自己的行为、思想能得到他人的赞同。永远不要吝啬你的赞美之词。如果你发现了他人的优点，大胆而真诚的表现出来。

Everyone hopes that their actions and thoughts can be approved by others.Never be stingy with your compliments. If you find the advantages of others, show it boldly and sincerely.

11）

能感恩的人在哪里都能遇见贵人，没有人会去帮助一个忘恩负义之人。学会感恩，用你的真情实意、切实行动来表现出你的感恩之心。

People who are grateful can meet dignitaries everywhere, and no one is going to help an ungrateful person. Learn to be grateful and show your gratitude with your true feelings and practical actions.

编译者｜周柯楠

Edited and translated by Zhou Kenan

January 11th, 2021