14.0-Knowing Yourself

了解自己

What-是什么

Most of us go almost all the way through life as complete strangers to ourselves.

我们大多数人几乎【完全不认识自己一样的】贯穿一生。

Why-为什么

Some of what we have to learn about ourselves is pleasant while a certain amount is inevitably unpleasant, but it all can make a valuable contribution to our self-improvement.

一些我们必须学习了解自己的事情有些是愉快的，而有些是不可避免的不愉快的，但这些都可以我自我提高贡献价值。

How-怎么做

The way to achieve self-knodledge is to ask lots of probing questions.

实现自我认识的方法是问很多探索性的问题

Am I quiet or talkative? Generally optimistic or pessimistic? Hard working or lazy? Fearful or brave? Serious or sasygoing? Modest or proud? Competitive or noncompetitive?

我是安静的还是健谈的？普遍乐观还是悲观？勤奋还是懒惰？害怕还是勇敢？严肃还是随和？温和还是骄傲？竞争性还是非竞争性？

Am I nervous or at ease with strangers?

我和陌生人在一起是紧张还是随和？

Do I retain my poise and presence of mind in emergencies?

我在紧急情况下能保持风度和镇定吗？

Am I confident in everything I do?

我对我所做的每件事都保持自信吗？

Do I resent certain types of people(the popular classmate, for example?)

我是否讨厌某一类型的人？（例如那个受欢迎的同学？）

Would I be more accurately classified as a leader or a follower?

我应该更准确地归为领导者还是跟随者呢？

How trustworthy am I? Am I loyal to may friend? Do I use people?

我有多值得信任？ 我应该对朋友忠诚吗？ 我用过人吗？

Can I keep a secret, or must I reveal it to at least one or two others?

我应该守住秘密？还是至少向一两个人透露？

How sensitive am I to the feelings of others? Do I ever purposely hurt others? Am I jealous of anyone??

我对别人的感受有多敏感？ 我有故意伤害过别人吗？ 我嫉妒谁了吗？

Do I enjoy causing trouble?

我喜欢制造麻烦吗？

Do I sow seeds of supspicion and dissension among people?

我是否在人们中间播种下怀疑和纷争的种子？

Do I rush to spread the latest gossip?

我是否急着去传播最新的八卦？

Do I talk behind friends backs?

我是否在朋友背后说坏话？

Are my comments about ohters usually favorable or unfavorable?

我对别人的评价通常是正面的还是负面的？

Do I criticize others real or imagined faults as a means of boosting my own ego?

我批评别人真实或想象的错误是为了提升自我吗？

Do I keep my promises? How tolerant am I of people's faults and mistake

我遵守承诺吗？ 我能容忍别人的缺点和错误吗？

Am I truthful with other people? With myself?

我对其他人诚实吗？对自己呢？

How objective am I in assersing my skills and talents? How intelligent am I?

我有多客观地评价我的技能和才能？我有多聪明？