我们探讨一下，应怎样理解习惯形成与戒除的全过程。不妨以吸烟为例，你们可以替换成你自己的习惯、自己的特定问题，请直接实验，我只是用烟瘾当例子。
当我想戒除烟瘾时，吸烟才是问题，才变成问题。只要我还陶醉于吞云吐雾，吸烟就不是个问题；当我必须行动，而烟瘾让我心意烦乱时，问题就产生了。吸烟令我烦恼，我想戒烟，我想摆脱烟瘾。这样一来，我对付烟瘾的方法，或者是抗拒，或者是谴责。也就是说，我想戒烟，我的方法要么是压抑烟瘾、谴责烟瘾，要么用另一种习惯，比如嚼口香糖，来代替抽烟。
那么，我能不能放下谴责，放下辩白，放下压抑，去观照烟瘾呢？我能否不带任何抗拒感，来审视烟瘾呢？此刻，我一边讲，请你一边做，你会发现：要做到不拒不迎，是极其困难的。因为我们的全部传统，我们的全部文化背景，都在驱使我们抵触、排斥或粉饰、辩解，而不是敏锐觉知问题。
我们做不到无为观察，我们的心一直在问题里打转。
——克里希那穆提《生命书：365观心日课》（The Book of Life: Daily Meditations with Krishnamurti）
Breaking Habits
Let us find out how to understand this whole process of habit forming and habit breaking. We can take the example of smoking, and you can substitute your own habit, your own particular problem, and experiment with your own problem directly as I am experimenting with the problem of smoking.
It is a problem, it becomes a problem, when I want to give it up; as long as I am satisfied with it, it is not a problem. The problem arises when I have to do something about a particular habit, when the habit becomes a disturbance. Smoking has created a disturbance, so I want to be free of it. I want to stop smoking; I want to be rid of it, to put it aside, so my approach to smoking is one of resistance or condemnation. That is, I don’t want to smoke, so my approach is either to suppress it, condemn it, or to find a substitute for it—instead of smoking, to chew.
Now, can I look at the problem free of condemnation, justification, or suppression? Can I look at my smoking without any sense of rejection? Try to experiment with it now as I am talking, and you will see how extraordinarily difficult it is not to reject or accept. Because, our whole tradition, our whole background, is urging us to reject or to justify rather than to be curious about it.
Instead of being passively watchful, the mind always operates on the problem.
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