为方便家长们学到最原汁原味的正面管教知识，我从国外找来一些正面管教资料。以下为正面管教英文站的译文（注：本人英文水平有限，以下内容是谷歌在线直译得来的，欢迎英语水平好的家长校正，我只是知识里的搬运工），更多详细的内容可以参考早期学习正面管教网友分享的正面管教揭密内容。
首先最重要的一点：和善而坚定。
First and foremost, be kind and firm.
“如果你在管教孩子的过程中感觉到了痛苦，那你的方法一定错了。”
"If you feel pain in disciplining your children, you must have done it wrong."
1、积极的暂停
1. Positive suspension
与孩子商量好一个暂停区域，如果遇到情绪失控就去那里冷静一下，事后再互相讨论刚刚为什么这样。但是讨论中不要用“你为什么blabla”，这样的语气通常带有指责的意味。尽量从解决问题的措施着手沟通，“如何做才能……”。
Discuss a pause area with your child. If you feel emotionally out of control, go there and calm down. Then discuss with each other why you just did it. But don't use "Why are you blabla blabla" in the discussion, which is usually blaming. As far as possible from the measures to solve the problem to start communication, "how can we do...".
2、知行合一
2. Integration of Knowledge and Practice
以身作则，指责孩子做不好之前先反省自己有没有完整地演示过，并且陪同孩子共同完成并改善过。（比如让孩子收拾玩具）
To set an example, before accusing the child of not doing well, reflect on whether he has demonstrated it completely, and accompany the child to complete and improve it together. (Let children pack their toys, for example)
3、勇于表达
3. Be brave in expression
①学会向孩子道歉；②夸奖不能只使用“聪明”、“真棒”等，要从某一行为的具体价值上进行夸奖；③3岁前就要充分表达对孩子的爱，让孩子知道自己是被父母关注的，长大后就不会故意做些不良行为来引起父母注意。
(1) Learn to apologize to the children; 2) Praise should not only use "smart", "awesome" and so on, but also praise the specific value of a certain behavior; 3) Before the age of 3, we should fully express our love for the children, let the children know that they are concerned by their parents, and when they grow up, they will not deliberately do some bad behavior to attract their parents'attention.
4、设定暗号
4. Setting a password
可以跟孩子设定一些暗号（动作或语言），比如某个动作表示“爱你”、某首歌表示“过来”等。
You can set some code (action or language) with your child, such as an action to express "love you", a song to express "come over" and so on.
5、把握方式
5. Grasp the Way
打骂只能带来短期的效果，长期反而有负面影响。要教会孩子学会互相尊重。问孩子该如何做比直接教他如何做要深刻的多。
Swearing can only bring short-term results, but in the long run it has negative effects. Teach children to respect each other. Asking a child how to do is more profound than teaching him how to do it directly.
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