Words

proactive

先发制人的；积极的；主动的 Proactive actions are intended to cause changes, rather than just reacting to change.

E.g.In order to survive the competition a company should be proactive not reactive...

要在竞争中生存下来，公司不应该消极应变，而应当先发制人。

disjointed

• not communicated or described in a clear or logical way; not connected

•不连贯的；支离破碎的；杂乱无章的

【SYN】disconnected,incoherent

The reflection of the current social paradigm tells us we are largely determined by conditioning and conditions.

Conditioning: the training or experience that an animal or a person has that makes them behave in a particular way in a particular situation

• 训练；薰陶；条件作用:

e.g. Is personality the result of conditioning from parents and society, or are we born with it?

个性是受父母和社会薰陶的结果,还是我们生而有之？

Condition :环境，条件 The conditions under which something is done or happens are all the factors or circumstances which directly affect it.

个人感悟

Self- awareness enables us to stand apart and examine even the way we“see”ourselves－our self-paradigm, the most fundamental paradigm of effectiveness.

中国古话说，人贵有自知之明，在我看来这句话里面包含的远不止这些。正确的自我认知是提高自我的必要条件之一，它不仅影响着我们的态度和行为，同时也影响着我们如何看待他人。只有当我们正确而全面的认识自己，我们才能了解他人为何这样想，为何这样做。

Between stimulus and response

作者来阐述刺激与反应这个概念时又举了个例子。这个例子的主人公Francal为犹太人，是个精神病专家，经历过纳粹集中营的种种折磨，最后悟出了一个道理：

He could decide within himself how all of this was going to affect him. Between what happened to him, or the stimulus, and his response to it, was his freedom or power to choose that response.

文章用了embryonic freedom来形容他所或的心灵上的自由，从内向外，就像作者在前面所说的inside-out

And we have independent will－the ability to act base on our self- awareness, free of all other influences.

自由意志是我们人类所独有的，在动物中是不存在的。我们能够自由选择，这已经是上帝最大的馈赠，Francal即使身陷集中营，但他意识到了这一点，他在精神上变得富有，也因此激励了身旁许许多多同样痛苦不堪的伙伴。

Proactive people can carry their own weather with them. Whether it rains or shines makes no difference to them. They are value driven; and if their value is to produce good quality work, it isn’t a function of whether the weather is is conductive to it or not.

其实看到这段还蛮有感悟的，我自认为我不属于reactive people那一类，但也绝对算不上proactive people.，因为我并不是value driven，离desire driven也有点距离。周围人的看法或多或少会影响我的心情，我并不能对此完全免疫。

特别喜欢文章接下来的两处引言：

No one can hurt you without your consent.－Eleanor Roosevelt

They cannot take away our self respect of we do not give it to them.－Ganhdi

我会慢慢使自己向proactive people靠近，虽然不能完全不在意别人看法，但能前进一点还是要努力向前迈步。