In bringing up children, every parent watches eagerly the child’s acquisition of each new skill-the first spoken words, the first independent steps, or the beginning of reading and writing. It is often tempting to hurry the child beyond his natural learning rate, but this can set up dangerous feelings of failure and states of worry in the child: This might happen at any stage. A baby might be forced to use a toilet too early, a young child might be encouraged to learn to read before he knows the meaning of the words he reads. On the other hand, though, if a child is left alone too much, or without any learning opportunities, he loses his natural enthusiasm for life and his desire to find out new things for himself.
在抚养孩子的过程中，每个父母都热切地注视着孩子们学会每项新技能——第一句话，第一个独立的步骤，或阅读和写作的开始。通常很容易让孩子的学习速度超过自然学习速度，但这可能会在孩子身上产生危险的失败感和担忧状态：这种情况在任何阶段都可能发生。一个婴儿可能会过早地被迫上厕所，一个年幼的孩子可能会被鼓励在知道所读单词的含义之前学会阅读。然而，另一方面，如果一个孩子太过独处，或者没有任何学习机会，他就会失去对生活的天生热情和为自己寻找新事物的欲望。
Parents vary greatly in their degree of strictness towards their children. Some may be especially strict in money matters. Others are sever over times of coming home at night or punctuality for meals. In general, the controls imposed represent the needs of the parents and the values of the community as much as the child’s own happiness.
父母对子女的严格程度各不相同。有些人可能在金钱问题上特别严格。其他人则因晚上回家或准时吃饭而受到严厉惩罚。总的来说，实施的控制代表了父母的需求和社区的价值观，也代表了孩子自己的幸福。
As regards the development of moral standards in the growing child, consistency is very important in parental teaching. To forbid a thing one day and excuse it the next is no foundation for morality. Also, parents should realize that “example is better than precept”. If they are not sincere and do not practise what they preach, their children may grow confused, and emotionally insecure when they grow old enough to think for themselves, and realize they have been to some extent fooled.
关于成长中的孩子的道德标准的发展，父母教学中的一致性非常重要。第一天禁止一件事，第二天原谅它，这是没有道德基础的。此外，父母应该意识到“榜样胜于训诫”。如果他们不真诚，不实践他们所说教的，当他们的孩子长大到可以自己思考，并意识到自己在某种程度上被愚弄时，他们可能会变得困惑和情绪不安全。
A sudden awareness of a marked difference between their parents’ principles and their morals can be a dangerous disappointment.
突然意识到父母的原则和道德之间存在明显的差异可能是一种危险的失望。
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